I still remember the day Sanju (My nephew) was born. The moment I held that tiny little cutie in my arms, the world stopped for a second. People often ask, "How did you feel when you held a newborn baby for the first time?" Even today, I struggle to find the right words. ❤️ Maybe every parent understands this.😊
You look at that tiny face and silently promise: "You angel, We will do everything we can for you."
Years passed faster than I expected.
The little boy who once held my finger while walking is now joining IIT. (No not the I’m In Trouble 😄, the real IIT)
And as I look back on his journey, I realize something important. His success is not just about marks, ranks, or achievements.
It is about positive parenting, trust, support, and giving a child the freedom to become who they are meant to be.
Children Are Not Projects. They Are Kites. 🪁 Hold the string with love, but give them enough sky to fly.
Many parents unknowingly make one mistake. We try to create the child we want.
Why do we expect every child to excel in academics? Why do we assume engineering, medicine, or corporate jobs are the only paths to success?
Every child is different.
Some children shine in studies. Some shine in sports.
Some shine in music. Some shine in art.
Some shine in acting. And some surprise us with talents we never imagined.
One of the biggest lessons I learned as a parent is this: "A child grows best when they are allowed to grow in their own direction."
If a child loves studies and enjoys spending hours with books, wonderful. Encourage them.
But if a child is naturally good at sports, don't force them to treat sports as a reward after studies. Let them explore what they genuinely love. The same applies to acting, music, art, dance, or any other talent.
Our job as parents is not to decide what our children should become. Our job is to help them discover who they are.
When this boy wanted to play sports, and participate in competitions, his parents made a bold decision. They chose a school that genuinely valued sports and gave children opportunities to grow beyond academics.
It was during his 10th grade. When the results came out, many people mocked him because his marks weren't what they expected. But for me, he had already won something far more valuable. He had spent his childhood doing what he truly loved, exploring his interests, playing sports, and learning lessons that no textbook could ever teach. Those experiences shaped his character, built his confidence, and taught him how to face life with courage.
Looking back, it was one of the best decisions they made. What amazed me most was that he never followed the crowd. He always chose something unique.
One day, he became interested in Rubik's Cubes. Until then, I didn't even know there were competitions for solving Rubik's Cubes! He was solving different cubes in what felt like seconds.
Then he explored other sports, I don't know the name, its something like Gatta Kusthi, and once again he surprised everyone with how quickly he learned and excelled.
Watching him taught me something important.
Children are naturally talented. Sometimes they discover talents that even parents never knew existed.
The environment around them can either help those talents grow or slowly suppress them.
If the environment helps them grow, let's stand back, clap our hands, and feel proud.
If they face setbacks, disappointments, or even toxic situations, let them learn from those experiences. It's okay. They are learning. Life has its own way of teaching lessons that no classroom ever can.
As parents, We simply need to stand beside them.
One of the biggest examples of this came after he secured admission to VIT, which is a highly respected institution and a dream for many students.
Most people would have happily accepted the seat and moved on. But he wasn't satisfied.
He said, "I want to take a break and try once more."
That wasn't an easy decision.
It involved uncertainty, risk, and plenty of questions.
What if it didn't work?
What if he lost a year?
What if things didn't go according to plan?
Yet his parents chose to support him.
Today, he has achieved the goal he was chasing.
But here's the question other's might have:
What if he hadn't? Would that have made him a failure? Absolutely not.
He would still have learned something valuable. He would still have grown. He would still have found another path.
Sometimes children understand their own dreams better than we do.
They know what excites them. They know what they want to explore. They know what kind of life they want to build.
Sometimes the greatest gift we can give our children is trust.
Support them. Guide them. Encourage them.
And when the time comes, have the courage to let them chase their own dreams.
So today, spend a little extra time with your child.
Listen to them.
Encourage them.
Believe in them.
Because sometimes the greatest thing a parent can say is:
"I trust you. Go chase your dreams."
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