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Wednesday, March 30, 2016

Betrayal in Relationship

Betrayal in Relationship 

"I was engaged to a man and we had period of 8 months before the wedding. Seven months passed ecstatically by exchanging lot of love, care, future dreams and plans. He made lot of promise regarding the marriage and kept iterating every now and then that I was his better half. One fine morning, he called only to inform that he needs to end the relationship. 
Even the last night, he was talking to me with lots of love and I had no premonition that our relationship is going to end the next morning. All of sudden, 7 months of hope and love came to an end for no reason" Her cheeks spilled over with tears. She hugged me tight and sobbed, her shoulders shaking until her eyes drained of tears.

I always go blank when I see my friends in such distress. I had no words to convince her. All I did was hug her back and say things will get alright.

When the dreams of leading a colorful life with a person you loved gets shattered in a moment, the emotional trauma is unbearable. All the promise they made collapse like popping of a balloon. You feel shell-shocked and cried out loud, without even knowing the reason for break-up. You reminisce and realize that you had given 100% effort in the relationship and the only mistake you did was loving them truly from the bottom of the heart.

In my friends case, we realized that he left her for another woman whom he found recently.

Betrayal in relationship!!!

My friend started to punish herself for trusting him so much and stared to blame herself. She started disconnecting from the world. This post is for the people who are in my friends situation.

To all those Prince and Princess out there, 
Remember, one ultimate rule of relationship. If a person loves you truly, he/she will never let you go or slip out of their hands, irrespective of the situation.
So, if a person decides to leave you in the middle, remember that this is best thing happened in your life. If a relationship comes to an end due to betrayal or broken promise, you have only one choice left.

MOVE ON!

People betray and its sad truth that the victim have to deal with chronic pain. Family might be there to give emotional support. But you tend to make them relax by saying, "I’m fine" and act as a strong person. Friends might be there to help you out, but its you who have to deal with this situation and come out.

How to Cope up with Betrayal:
  • Don’t spend time/energy on meaningless relationship. If a relationship has ended due to betrayal, don’t invest your productive time in convincing or unnecessary conversations. 
  • If a person is living happily after betraying you, why should you suffer just because you loved truly? I know it hurts. But it hurts to heal you. Down the line, you will feel happy that they are gone from your life.Don't think about Revenge or hurting them back. They don't even deserve your revenge. And, If you love(loved) them truly, you don’t even think of wounding the person. 
  • They have not realized your worth. But, I think you know your worth. So go out and pamper yourself.  Thank them for making you realize that there is a beautiful life outside them.
  • During the beginning stage, it’s a normal to feel void and empty, but remember universe or guardian angel has made your life empty to fill it with all the beautiful love in the future. 
  • Don’t get into relationship another new immediately. During this healing process, a person feels so fragile. So, until you feel strong and love yourself more, don’t ever get into another relationship. 
  • Get into the things that attract you more. To find out, what attracts you more, take a pen, paper and sit at quite place. Spend some 15 minutes and write down all the things you love doing. Whether it is small or big, don’t hesitate to put in words. When you are done or exhausted, chose top 3 things from the list. Start doing it for 66 days. Make that as an identity based habit. After few days, you will see lot of positive vibes flowing every day.
If you look back the history, betrayal has made a person only stronger. I am sure, after few months, you will be surprised to see a new version of you.

Final Note, What if the person who betrayed comes back for forgiveness? Again, you have only one choice left.
MOVE ON!
Because, it’s not worth another shot!

Don't settle for a playmate, when God has a soulmate waiting for you - unknown 

P.S Soul mate is not life. It’s just a part of life. Just be patience for few days. Soon you will find one and that day, you will thank the person who has betrayed you. 

6 comments:

  1. I agree with you, We Should thank the person who betrayed us.

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  2. Medicine for broken hearts...Good refurbishing post....

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    1. Not sure, whether this post comes under that "refurbishing" category ;)

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  3. Good writeup!! Much needed one :)
    Eye for eye makes the whole blind! Forgive but never forget what it taught you and most importantly 'Move on' :)

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    1. Surprised to see your comments in my blog :) Thanks for dropping by :)

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