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Saturday, December 6, 2014

Value of Food


Value of Food 
Me, my friends Vineetha and Induprabha went to “Thiruvannamalai” temple in Tamil Nadu. It was believed that when a person circumambulate the mountain on a full moon day their wish will be fulfilled. We all decided to fast and circumambulate the mountain which is approximately 16 KM. Vineetha prayer was to get a very good husband. Induprabha was in love with a guy for almost 8 years and she is badly fighting for her parents to approve her marriage. Her prayers was for her parent’s approval for her marriage with her lover.

After 4 hours of walk, we started feeling very tired and weak. We felt some one pinching the stomach. It stared to rumble and realized that we all damn hungry. It started to pain and experienced head ache and vomiting sensation. With god's grace we reached the temple, but found a big queue. We could clearly sense that it will take minimum 2 hours for the queues to move out. Neither we could come out or move further. We got struck between the queues. We all wanted something to eat at that moment. But, didn't had any other option other than starving. The queues moved very slowly, we finished Dharshan after few hours and then we had food. It tasted like heaven.

At that point of time, I realized the value of hungry. All our problems of being single, not getting married, for not being in relationship vanished. We in-fact changed our profile picture to the below.
 So, hungry makes a man weird. We must have all realised atlest in one point of time, the pain of not getting food when hungry.er th Imagine, how many people are starving every day and A child dies every 5 second as a result of hunger.
How can we eliminate class room hunger?
  1. Childers beg, lie or steal due to hunger. If you find a child showing their tiny hands towards you or knocking your car window shield for money just don’t neglect. Call 1098 and inform them. They take them, offer education, food and stay. 
  2. Teach the kids about their rights. 
  3. Offer them a quality education, which will help them survive in future. 
  4. Creating more employment opportunity in rural areas, so that parents have enough money to offer good food for their kids. 
  5. Reduce Population. Improve the awareness of family planning and encourage 2 kids per family. 
  6. Severe action against owner for employing child, when they appoint kids for work. 
How can we contribute to eliminate hunger?
As an individual let’s try to follow this:

  1. Dont waste food. Wasting 1/4 idly a day may not be a big deal. But wasting everyday 1/4 amount of food affects a lot. It is proved that one third of the food produced in the world for human consumption is wasted. Its okay to pack to left overs in restaurants and at least give it to a dog, instead of throwing it into dust bin
  2. Instead of spending thousands in parties and pubs, spend those money for kids food. Donate those money to charity for offering lunch/breakfast for them. At least during your special occasions
  3. Order only what you want, and cook only what you need. 

Pre-Marital Sex - Yes or No

Premarital Sex - Yes or No 
In my grandparent’s generation, a girl talking to a boy was considered immoral. Whereas in my parent’s generation, a guy talking to a girl was acceptable, but love marriages were treated to be sin. Whereas in my generation i.e, at present, love marriages are welcomed by our parents. But the term “living together”, “Dating” and “Premarital Sex” are considered as taboo. The below three pictures would describe the cultural growth of three generations. 

My Grandparents Generation


My Parents Generation.. 


The Next Generation... 

I was shuddering, when I spoke to my little sister today who is just 19 years old. I also understood that generation gap was not between me and my parents, but it was between me and my sister. I am 26 years old and my sister Ishani is 19 years old and she just entered college.
This was the question I asked her after a long hesitant, "What you think about premarital Sex? Are you for it or against it?” I thought she would be embarrassed at such question. But, in-turn, she comforted me and wiped my shyness to hear her answers.
With confident she replied, “I don’t think it’s bad as long as they get married. I would not be comfortable about it when it’s with a guy whom I know for a small time. But, if it is someone whom I have known for a long time, then there comes the matter of trust. If I can trust him, maybe I would not mind having it with him”
I appreciated her for being candid and I am a person who doesn’t cling to the old beliefs. I don’t have any wrong opinion on people who go for dating, live together and have sex before marriage. Because it’s their freedom and as long as they don’t hurt anyone’s feelings, “who are we to judge them or pass some critics?” But on the other hand, according to me my answer is a Big “NO” to pre-marital sex. Because, there are chances of promises about marriage, getting broken up after sex. So in those cases, the girl gets treaded upon by her own feelings. Then there comes the look of society upon her as a “bitch”. Also, I studied in a Christian school, which preached premarital sex is a sin and the environment I brought up was with full of morals and values. They taught me sex is meant only after marriage and their teachings were nailed up in each and every cell of mine.
A woman should be matured enough to judge or select her partner. Even if a woman is mature enough to select the Mr. Right, Circumstance can turn 180 degrees and the partner may leave you for any personal, health or financial problem. Ask yourself this question 100 times, what if he finds a better person than you, or maybe he was with you just for sex? Or things were not working out and announce a call off? In the case of a break-up, it's only women go into a deep depression.
Sex is a beautiful gift from nature that takes the love life of a partner to the next level by developing a deep companionship. But when it is done before marriage, it may bounce back the other way. It may develop a hatred feeling towards partner in case of any minute break-up. Love is to enjoy the emotional bonding between the couple whereas, marriage is to enjoy the physical bonding between the couple.
As per me, the right age to talk about Sex has to be over 24. Premarital sex comes with a package of fear of pregnancy, fear of break-up. When you love someone truly and unconditionally, you wait for them. Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. It may be difficult to stop yourself from getting intimate with the partner whom you love the most. But when you wait till the marriage, it really takes you to the next level. And as a woman, the best gift you a woman can gift for a life partner would be the "virginity" and as a man, the best gift you can give to your lover would be stopping herself from facing unwanted pregnancy and guilt.

This post was written as a part of YES or NO to Pre-Marital Sex contest organized by indiblogger.