3 Things to realize before it’s too late

There are three things in life that everyone should realize at the earliest in order to achieve success and peace in life.

I have a big Financial/Family/Health/Emotional Problem:
                   If you are the one who says the above statement, then it’s time to burn those negative thoughts into ash. All problems tend to be gigantic just by over-thinking. There are only 2 things in the universe.

1. The things which are beyond our control - The so Called "FATE" 
2. The things which are under our control. 

Things such as accident, falling sick, losing a valuable thing/person are beyond our control. Why to give importance to those things when is not in our control. Just accept, learn to "let go" and stay positive for the next good beginning.
Second, that is in our control.  - Be wise and take cautious decision in the all the things you chase. Be wise in choosing friends, eating habits and thoughts. When a person starts doing it, even the things which are beyond the control can be restricted to certain level.

Talent/Lack of Time/I am not lucky pal:
“I am not lucky enough”, “It’s too late to start now”,” It’s not the right time”, “I am not a wannabe” are only the road blockers for achieving the passion and dreams.

I don’t have time- If that’s the answer for achieving the passion, come-on... It means, it’s treated as least important. Because Have you ever stopped yourself from brushing your teeth? Because its very important for you( if not at least for others )

I am not talented: There is no such thing called "talented person." There are only people who just practice and work hard. And add a spice of persistence to Practice and hard work. You will become the talented person that world would envy.

Not lucky enough - just because you are struggling does NOT mean you are failing.  Every great success requires some kind of struggle to get there. so stop finding excuses for pursing your passion.
On your marks, get set and go...

Final, but most important one.
Love yourself! Love yourself!! Love yourself!!!
Love and admire yourself than anything and any person in the world and Stop expecting love from others. No one can give you the care and love you need apart from yourself.
Secondarily, love, Appreciate and care for the people truly whoever you meet. But learn to accept and move on when they are not with you and learn to move on happily. Relationship and the people are the ones who keep moving and changing and trust that you will meet better person always.

My beautiful food with Borosil

My beautiful food with Borosil 

Food flavors better when it looks all adorable and when severed with Borosil products. This year I had a pleasant surprise by my friend for my birthday. The living room was arranged with tulips and pear blossoms and the room was Lightened up with elegantly designed diya. Roses were placed in swirl tumblers allover the dinning table.

The cookies were decorated like a melting snowman with marshmallows and the chocolate donuts were pretzels to simulate reindeer. Chocolates were melted in microwave and cooled to 90°F.

The cake was covered with a  bright color of fondant like pink and red and rolled out into long ropes to create rainbow like waves that can surround the various layers of the cake.

And Finally got a memorable gift - Sandwich Maker

This post is a contest entry, sponsored by Borosil with association to Indiblogger.

Dad My Role Model by Deepika Muthsamy

“The video is shot as a part of the My Role Model Campaign by Gillette India in association with Blogadda"

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Sivakarthikeyan - The Inspiration and Role model

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Sivakarthikeyan – “The Green-eyed monster”

His growth as a participant in a comedy show, to mimicry artiste ->Dancer in Reality dance show -> Anchor -> character artiste in 3 Movie -> a Lead role in Marina -> multi-starrer in Kedi Billa Killadi Ranga -> solo hero in Ethir Neechal and finally 'Maan Karate' Peter with Haniskha with a mega combo of AR Murugadoss's story, Anirudh's music and Escape Artists Motion production is definitely an incredible journey and an inspiring one to most of the youngsters and yes for me too...

“A lucky guy” People just quote a word without knowing the hardships he went through to stand where he is today.  Curiosity to learn new things has showered with success. People believed him only as a "mimicry artiste" but when he was given a chance to dance in "Jodi Number One" and to host the TV shows. He saw it as an opportunity and grabbed it just for the sake of exploring. Today he is a playback singer, a good dance, and a notorious actor.

He took his failure as a stride for the success. He messed up his first audition and was literally chased away with a statement, “anchoring wasn't his game”. After the rejection as an anchor from a leading television channel, he walked back home weeping all the way. That moment he promised himself that someday he will become a great anchor. After a lot of rejections and being a mere substitute, he finally made it as an anchor… and now a hero.

To be successful, it is also very important to be humble and never let fame or money travel to your head. And because of his humble nature, I like him personally too.
Like wine, he is getting better and better with each film. And like his journey it leaves me motivated and inspired.

As he says "We should never allow ourselves to believe that we are incapable of something.” 
His saying are not just a word... its a proof from his journey.
He is a symbol of hope for the common man. 

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Rajinikanth hypothetical shopping experience

"Kadhal Anukal udambil etthanai? 

neutron electron – unneelakannil mottham etthanai?

unnai ninaithal thisukkal thorum aasai sindhanai..

haiyoo....

(A Tamil song from the film Enthiran(ROBOT))

Rajinikanth was strumming with guitar looking at Aishwarya Rai Bachchan in a beautiful oasis.
"Sirrrrrrrrrrrr!!!" The mellifluous soul-stirring song was interrupted by an unexpected sound of a high pitched male voice.
"Cut!!!!!" Director Shankar yelled. All the assistant directors pitched to search the voice.
"Who's the Black Sheep? Mehhhhhh!" Ranjikanth eyes searched for the voice.
A Man in his late twenties, completely drenched with sweat came running towards him with mobile phone in one hand. It was none other than Rajinikanth's personal assistant.
"Seeeviduven...Seevi... (I'll chop off your head)". Why did you disturb me in the mid of ROBO shoot" Rajini screamed.
"Sir, Drop this ROBOT movie. After years, Robot will Release a Film with your name. But there is a burning issue coming up.. "
"Sabba" Everybody in the set needed a break and Director Shankar announced 15 minutes tea break.
Rajini's P.A continued, "Today is your wife's bday and you forget to wish her.... Madam is angry...Very angry..."
Rajini realize that he had forgotten his wife birthday and thinks of an idea quickly. He calls his wife immediately and says, "Honey.. There is a pleasant surprise for you in an hour”
The worried PA asks how it could be possible, as he is miles far away from home.
“En Vazhi, Thani Vazhi" (My way is my own)” Rajini again throws a punch.
"Sir, what are you going to do?"
Rajini looks at him and says, ""Naan enna pannuven, epdi pannuven yarkum theriyathu. Aana panna vendiya nerathile correct ah panni duven" (Nobody knows how or what I will do, but I will do when the time is right)
This time the PA literally gets pissed off on hearing his punch dialogues.
"Are you going to catch next flight and purchase something in malls and surprise your wife?"
Rajini again throws his punch,"Kannaaa Pani Thaa Kutama shopping mall pogum...Singo Singala... online shopping pannum." (Only pigs shops in groups through shopping mall, a tiger shops alone through online)
Now, the PA thinks he got a chance to pull his leg and says, "Sir, we have Yebhi, filpkart, Myntra, shopping.indiatimes,Homeshop18, Zovi, Yepme, eBay and over 500 online retailers ...Before you finalize which one to opt for shopping, your wife’s next birthday will get over"

Rajini laugh out with loud and takes out his phone and type "BAGGOUT" and immediately his phone vibrates.
"Summa pere ketta athrudula" (Doesn't Doesn't everything quake at the mere mention of the name)"
He orders a orange color dress, Black Sandal, Black Belly Shoes HYPE, Purple Saree, Navy Blue Leggings, Jaipuri Magenta Silk Double Bed Cover, Brown Necklace, Renata LED Desk Light Crackle Glass, Black Running Shoes Kittens, Doodle Girls White Printed Dress, Red Rose Women Cream Nightdress, Golden Peacock Silver Plated Heart Shaped Earring through Baggout.com.He finish his purchase with a punch, "Andavan solran. Arunachalam seiran" (God commands, I act )

This post as a part of BlogADDA and Win contest organized by BaggOut.com

Details of the Contest:
Topic  Choose any interesting personality and write about his/her hypothetical experience of Shopping through Baggout.

Manja Pai - Movie Review

Manja Pai - Movie Review 

There are "N" number of movies in Tamil cinema, which projects the love/bonding between a mother and son, father and daughter. Here comes a new attempt from the Debutante director Raghavan about the love between Grandpa and his grandson. We miss the grand parenting due to our lifestyle, and the movie “Manja Pai” will definitely makes us to long for Grandparents love. 

Plot (From Wiki)

Tamil (Vimal) was raised by his grandfather (Raj Kiran) single handedly in a village and 25 years later the boy is working in an IT company, Chennai staying in an upmarket posh apartment. Tamil meets Karthika (Lakshmi Menon) a medical student at a traffic signal and it is love-at-first-sight for him. He follows her and in no time she reciprocates. Tamil is now selected to go to US in three months and he brings his grandfather to the city to spend quality time before he leaves. The rest of the film is how the old man with a heart of gold creates havoc and nuisance in the life of Tamil, residents of the residential apartment and even in the American consulate!
Review:
It’s a must one time watch movie to understand how we lost our emotions and feelings for our elders. The tolerance level which Vimal shows towards his grandpa is definitely a take away.
Thank god!!! Steve jobs is dead, otherwise he must have got heart attack when Rajkiran thinks MAC as a sandwich maker and keeps it on stove to toast the sandwich.
His behaviour on seeing American flag at the U.S embassy (wondering why Vimal takes him to embassy during his interview)
Of Course, there is no wonder that people who are filled with innocence and pure heart are the ones who suffer a lot.
Thank god.. The climax was not typical Tamil story…

Pros:

• Rajkiran's Characterization and his acting.
• Humour quotient and sentiment. 

Cons:

• US Visa approval was so filmy… (what are you trying to say!?)
• Lakshmi Menon characterization was little realistic but at some places it was over dose. Costumes could have been taken care.
• Vimal ..Please stop doing the "Software professional" role. 
• The climax was draggy 

Verdict:
A must watch movie to understand the emotions and feelings of human beings.. Be it our parents or grand parents

Rating: **** 4/5

Trekking around Bangalore

TREKKING AROUND BANGALORE

Monsoon is back, quenching the thirst of the dry earth, cooling down the land. And its time to hike through precipitous rain forest to lift the soul by eavesdropping to the sound of gushing water and fall in love with nature. Of course, the nature is very romantic…. The sun shine after a rain, flowers drenched in water, complete greenery, untouched water and much more to explore.. Exicted!? Here is a chance to explore the trekking Places through Bangalore Hikers. (A non-profit organization)

To know the upcoming trekking events - http://www.bangalorehikers.com/p/bangalore-hikers-events.html

Benefits of Trekking:

• Improves physical and mental health
• helps to lose large amounts of calories
• Wonderful stress buster

Lets get prepared to deal with the unexpected - you don't know what awaits you in the next step...

Expectations and Possessiveness in a Relationship

Expectation and Possessiveness are two toxic elements which is a slow and silent killer in any relationship. Possessiveness comes only when we have the fear of losing the person and the real problem comes when we try to possess the person as "MINE

People do say, Possessiveness is sweet and that a romantic relationship always comes with possessiveness and expectation. But it’s a pathetic truth that our mind is programmed in that way. Possessiveness will definitely result in nagging and expectation will result in disappointment. If these 2 have negative outputs then why to be in a relationship and spoil the strength of a relationship?  So, let’s come out of the shell and think just a little different for a healthy relationship.

Remember that if you try to control and restrict your partner's life according to your preferences, you are greatly disrespecting them and you don't love them. If we truly love our partner, we love him or her unconditionally, without expecting him or her to love us in return and love us the way that we want them to love us. We will only wish him or her to be happy

If you are being possessive, it is “YOUR  issue - Your deficiencies.” Why to put your partner in a tough spot because of your doubts?
 Instead of feeding your mind with negative thoughts just focus on the word TRUST. Re-iterate your mind that, this is just a feeling, not the truth."

If he is online in what’s app for 24 hrs and if she is dropped in a bike at late hours, instead of infecting your mind with negative thoughts, just trust him or her and you can’t really change a person by attracting their behaviour. So accept the person as she/he is. More than anything, if you like someone, give them the space they need and accept them as they are

Only a relationship without possessiveness and expectation will bring peace and freedom. If you are in love with extreme possessiveness and expectations its not Love.

Detach yourself from expectation and possessiveness...slowly disappointment, anger, hatred, jealousy, frustration, fear, worry, and feelings of hurt will subjugate and happiness will come to picture

There is always a difference in "changing your partner" and "Accepting as they are and trying to grow with them". Do I need to point out that the first one sounds dominating, and if you cant do the second one then the relationship is pointless?

Happy Womens day

I always owe women who succeeded in both Personal and professional life while keeping their passion alive and growing. In that list, I always respect one person - Vaishali Kasture - Managing Director of Goldman Sachs, Mother of a kid, an avid runner and sports freak.
With simple change in our attitude, we too can reach those heights. And in this women’s day, I would like to share few points which I gained through my experience.

1.  Make Right choice at the right time and stick with that decision. Never ever feel guilty about that decision in future.
2. Life is a car race. It’s practically not possible to always run in 4th Gear. It’s okay to take a step back and be in the first gear for a while.
3. Networking - Build a connection with the people you meet and be in touch with a bunch of people who are your supporters.
4. Always think of some way to become better and improve your skills.
5. Life is not a snake and ladder game that teaches you the survival of the fittest. It is instead, a game of chess- to win, you have to make a move.
6. If you don’t invest in your personal or your technical skills you will be unhappy. one unhappy women = 1 unhappy family.
7. Take a break from your daily routine and do different things.
8. Keep upgrading yourself and Stay up-to-date on the industry/Current Role
9. Work-life balance is not a complex one! Think it instead as "work - life integration" and you can juggle family and career well. 
10. Plan! Plan!! Plan!!! Spend lot of energy pre-planning than the Post work. Once the planning is done, then make sure you go through your sequence of planning.
11. Planning is the most important thing. Not perfection. It’s okay to do mistakes at the initial stage and learn from it. It is a fact that every human, be it one belonging to the aristocratic society or the peasants, he/she makes 7 mistakes each day ! 
12. The Quest for perfection comes when you accept yourself with your inabilities and be happy with what you are
13. Invest (spend time) in yourself.
14. Life is a long game. Have a mission, both personal and professional. Strive to balance between both keeping in mind to be comfortable with the choices you make.
15. Give importance to the ME-time. That period of incubation is what gives life its productivity. It is okay to be greedy and resilient in the long run.
16. Role models and inspiration does not mean that it has to come from some big personality. Every person, big or small you meet in your life will teach you something. Take inspiration from your surroundings, the place you live and breathe. 
17. You may fail quite a number of times. But always carry the ray of hope, for it is that hope, that distinguishes a man from a Woman.

Happy women's day !

BRIDE and PREJUDICE!!

This is a guest post by Vijayeswari Muruganandam

This is the first time; I have tried my hands at writing. Bear with me!! Yes I am writing on something, which I don’t have a profound knowledge. But felt that, this could be tit-bits for all my friends, who are actively involved in their partner search!! As the title infers its about Marriage, Prejudices, DO's and DONT's.

Matrimony!! Reading this word itself would have flashed you with million feelings!! I am just two months old in matrimony search, so I am just sticking with a small post!!
This is purely based on my personal opinion and observation/experience. No Psychiatric evaluation done on this!!

The DON'T's...HERE YOU GO..
Don’t try to judge people and be open to know, what they are!! 
- Very often, when we tend to judge people on the looks, with their mail communication etc. Most of the cases do not work out, because there are high chances for miscommunication. Writing is a therapy and you can express yourself without any inhibition, but you can’t guarantee that the intended reader gets it right!! If you are interested in a person and want it to work out, just pick up the phone or arrange for a meeting and get to know each other better. If it is going to be long distance proposals, need to consider carefully, the associated risks, uncertainties and constraints.

Don’t have a Stereotype and Pseudo Modern Mentality!!
- Allow the other person to express their feelings or emotions freely. It is absolutely fine, as you are trying to find your soul mate and this is not any ordinary relationship. The more you have the stereotypic views about a person, the more you have the chances of ending up in a wrong partner!! EGO factor plays an important role here. When the other person expresses their interest, you may don’t have to reciprocate or encourage it, but respect their feelings. The human DNA is wired in a way, that it can’t accept things which come easily. Often I have heard/seen men showcasing the “HUNT & CONQUER” characteristics.  Men get the sense of achievement and a source of great pride, going on knees for a woman, who is hard to get. Believe me, 99% of the women do not express their true feelings, because of this nature of men. If you want any relationship to sustain, throw the EGO out of you.  Admire them, Ask sorry, Say thanks whenever required and just try to be yourself and if someone does all this for you, don’t take them for granted. It means they value “YOU” more than their “EGO”. If you let your EGO in, people try to hide their emotions and present a fake personality. Do you really want that??

Don’t try to customize people!!
- Perfect man/ woman do not exist in the world. Never try to influence them or customize people, as this may not lead to a long lasting relationship. Try the ones, who best suits you. If they are not your type, just move on. Instead don’t try to tailor them according your expectations.

Don’t juggle with too many options!!
- There is nothing wrong in looking out for more options, as the human brain looks out for the best. But I personally prefer, to go one by one. Give some time to consider every person and look out for the qualities you expect. If you come across a person, who meets almost or majority of your expectations, just fix with them.  Comparisons can never stop and at any point, human mind is insatiable.

Don’t Pester!!
- Nobody in the world wants to be pestered. Expressing your interest should not appear like a menace to your potential partner. Relationships may fall out because of this, no matter whether it is before or after marriage.Men usually do not seek attention, but women do!! So boys try to pay attention to your girl, admire them. Dear girls try not to be over expressive, as men hate that!!


NOW WHAT ARE the DOs???

If it is worth doing, its worth over doing!! Yes, if you like someone, just try to be rational enough in considering the background, their interests and passion. Also be emotional enough to understand the person, analyse their emotional quotient and see whether this could work out for you. As every person is unique, some may express their interests soon and some may take long time to admit the interest. The moment you realise/ start to develop emotions for your partner, express it and don't wait for them to express it first. There is nothing wrong in expressing your feelings with the potential partner. Be empathetic!! Play it safe to avoid any last minute disappointments.

AND FINALLY … A SMALL PIECE OF ADVICE!!

If you get rejected, don’t lose heart!! It’s just that people reject EXPENSIVE things, as they CAN’T AFFORD!!

I love him for so and so reasons...

"I love him for his smile, his personality, his warm eyes, intelligence." - When I asked my friends, these were the replies I got. Some could say that the person they love were "key" in keeping their enthusiasm up and roaring, that they cheer them up, motivate them, advice them. Few could even say,  “He is so rich. He’s got lot of money”.

Is this Love?. Will it last forever?

When you fall for anyone who meet these SPECIFIC REASONS it’s just an attraction or mere-exposure effect.

All these reasons are like a mirage in a desert. These things might be just an illusion .They just disappear when u move forward in journey of life. When these reasons are not met, It is human nature to get frustrated and disappointed. This is where our mind starts questioning our decision.This is where u begin to ask those question above. Is this love?.This is the point where We stop appreciating him for all the good qualities he possess and start blaming him for not meeting our expectations. We cling to our fairy tales until the price for believing in them becomes too high.
Unhealthy relationships starts at the point where u grow irritated and start regretting your decision You start losing your patience and even a small thing would look like a huge mistake and you start reacting with hatred ,fear and ignorance. This is where the reasons fades away .

Does that mean “Love without reason lasts forever” Maybe. But when you fall for a person just for matching your checklist...At one point of time, you will regret it.
Love knows no reasons and it is beyond reasoning. Love connects your soul. It is the music of your heart.
So Let the love happen the way it has to be Naturally. The most beautiful things in the world are not seen and heard...But sensed...Your heart feels the love for him. Once the mind intervene its just a commitment not a feeling.
Keep falling in love over and over again without any reasons. Just enjoy every bit of your love without any reasons. Only one thing is constant in this world. Love. Only people fade, thoughts fade, not Love.!!
Reason is powerless in the expression of Love.