Dream Couple

My friend Sangeetha called us a "Dream couple". 
I asked, “What made you to say so” 
“You look happy, only few people are happy after the marriage” She added.

I guessed where she is coming from.
“Oh! Oh, you can’t judge my life based on my Facebook or WhatsApp status.  Moreover, you should say this after 30 years or 40 years or, 50 years of my marriage. We are just married” I responded
“Deepika, I get that vibes and you have made a good decision in choosing the life partner. Can you share some advice?” She requested looking into my eyes.

As I look back on it, Yes, I agree I met the man of my dreams.

Choosing the right partner is like building a strong foundation for a successful Married Life. We spend lot of time making our dream wedding plans. Do we at least spend some time to choose our life partner? Choosing the right partner is extremely crucial for a marriage and If you succeed in doing so, you are half the battle succeed.

How to choose a life partner?

I am tired of being single...

I need a mate now...

I am growing older...

Life is boring...

External Pressure...

My friend is getting married, So I have to...

If you are getting married based on those wrong reasons, then the marriage might be at risk.

Some people believe getting married is the key to happiness and will solve the problem of being alone. If that was the case, all wedded ones should not feel lonely. Indeed, most of the people feels puffed after a marriage.

When I could not find the companion I hoped for, I did not get frustrated or dejected. I took that time to discover about myself and explored things I never knew. I focused on what I needed in my life. That further gave me a wisdom of clarity about life and confidence in choosing the spouse.

My advice would be, Stop hunting for a man or woman. Be unique, keep on travelling in all the aspects of life, you will eventually meet the life partner in that journey.

Before I was ready to say, “I love you,” to someone. I loved myself more.

Ask yourself.“Do you love you?” 

If you can’t love yourself, No one can. It’s not a fairy-tale, no man will come riding in a horse to love you.
But when you love yourself, others will admire the way you are.
Loving yourself can help you to love others naturally and keep them happy.

Before you get married, learn to control your emotions. if you cannot control your emotions, your passions, your feelings, your attitudes and behavior—then you are not prepared for marriage.

I overwhelmed lot of criticism by society for not getting married at the right age and by saying no for proposals. But I was sturdy and hanged on, until I find that person. Yes, Instead of escaping from the situation, I decided to accept the pain that society gave and courageously stick to my decision.

Because I should not regret my decision later and if I do so, I will not be able to forgive myself. Hence, while you embark on this journey, there will be lot of painful strings attached to it. Be prepared to have headache and heart breaks.

Finally, I meet him. We shared a similar love for the family and possessed a mutual passion for life. When I was with him, I felt secure. We were not afraid to ask questions or discuss about negatives.

Realize, no couple is happy 24*7 and cuddles all the time. If this basic law of marriage is understood, then 50% of the marriage problems will be solved.

Any successful marriage will undergo hurt and bitterness. It’s always good to vent out and argue. Healthy couples eventually learn from it, instead of exploding and making the situation worse. We learn by living.

Choosing your partner is once-a life-time decision and the consequence will impact or change the lives of you and your family.

When you choose a partner based on the butterfly chill moments it might go wrong! 

When you choose based on matching criteria, it might go wrong!

Choose when both the mind and soul are in sync, it will help to have a higher level of serenity in marriage.

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Jasmine Build On Shifting Sand by Sanjay Desai

Jasmine Build On Shifting Sand by Sanjay Desai.

Jasmine Build On Shifting Sand is a story about chasing the dream of modelling. These days many people dream about modelling industry or the creative fields. But due to their limitations in the mind they give up easily. Those who have any burning purpose and passion, please grab this book and read on. 

Yes, JASMINE BUILD ON SHIFTING SAND is a self-half fiction novel and it shares about the experience of Jasmine who fights through the obstacles to shine in the world of fashion industry.

The Acknowledgement section starts with the Author’s journey in practice of meditation and how his guru’s like Ramanna Maharshi, Osha and J Krishnamurty has influenced in writing the book.

The Prologue was extremely difficult it makes us lose interest in the book. The author has shared his adventure experience through the Himalayas. Though I am a hard-core trekker and Keder trek was in my bucket list, for some reason I could not get cooked with the narrative style. 

But the second half of the book is really a must read during this period. I.e. after the unpredictable corona and the lockdown life. I know many of us have been depressed being at home, handling all the things facing lots of ups and downs, But this second half,  motivate us and gives us a guidance on practical things and teachings. The teaching in the second half will help us to get an enriching journey in our life and I am sure I am going to carry out them.

Personally, I felt first half was little boring, but as you push yourself to read more, you will get an enchanting experience.

This is the first book that I am reading that has an experience of micro-learning multimedia tool kit. i.e one can enjoy the E-microlearning experience.

Writing style of the author:

Sanjay Desai's writing style has the ability to inspire readers and his book "Jasmine Journey" is a prime example of this. The use of precise vocabulary makes for an easy and enjoyable read, with the underlying message being clear and impactful.

Self-help books have always been an effective tool for personal growth, and this book is no exception. It has the power to shift our mindset and encourage us to pursue our dreams with a renewed sense of purpose.

Final Take away:

Thanks to Sanjay for sharing his ideas on spiritual aspects on life and his career. Everyone wish to pursue our dreams, be it small or big. if you are one among them, please do read this book and explore the authors teachings. You will get a hope of positivity.

About the Book:

• Publisher: Conscious Leap Insights Private Limited 
• Number of Pages : 160 pages
• Buy From Amazon

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