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Sunday, August 8, 2021

Dream Couple

My friend Sangeetha called us a "Dream couple". 
I asked, “What made you to say so” 
“You look happy, only few people are happy after the marriage” She added.

I guessed where she is coming from.
“Oh! Oh, you can’t judge my life based on my Facebook or WhatsApp status.  Moreover, you should say this after 30 years or 40 years or, 50 years of my marriage. We are just married” I responded
“Deepika, I get that vibes and you have made a good decision in choosing the life partner. Can you share some advice?” She requested looking into my eyes.

As I look back on it, Yes, I agree I met the man of my dreams.

Choosing the right partner is like building a strong foundation for a successful Married Life. We spend lot of time making our dream wedding plans. Do we at least spend some time to choose our life partner? Choosing the right partner is extremely crucial for a marriage and If you succeed in doing so, you are half the battle succeed.

How to choose a life partner?

I am tired of being single...
I need a mate now...
I am growing older...
Life is boring...
External Pressure...
My friend is getting married, So I have to...

If you are getting married based on those wrong reasons, then the marriage might be at risk.

Some people believe getting married is the key to happiness and will solve the problem of being alone. If that was the case, all wedded ones should not feel lonely. Indeed, most of the people feels puffed after a marriage.

When I could not find the companion I hoped for, I did not get frustrated or dejected. I took that time to discover about myself and explored things I never knew. I focused on what I needed in my life. That further gave me a wisdom of clarity about life and confidence in choosing the spouse.

My advice would be, Stop hunting for a man or woman. Be unique, keep on travelling in all the aspects of life, you will eventually meet the life partner in that journey.

Before I was ready to say, I love you,” to someone. I loved myself more.

Ask yourself.“Do you love you?” 

If you can’t love yourself, No one can. It’s not a fairy-tale, no man will come riding in a horse to love you.
But when you love yourself, others will admire the way you are.
Loving yourself can help you to love others naturally and keep them happy.

Before you get married, learn to control your emotions. if you cannot control your emotions, your passions, your feelings, your attitudes and behavior—then you are not prepared for marriage.

I overwhelmed lot of criticism by society for not getting married at the right age and by saying no for proposals. But I was sturdy and hanged on, until I find that person. Yes, Instead of escaping from the situation, I decided to accept the pain that society gave and courageously stick to my decision.

Because I should not regret my decision later and if I do so, I will not be able to forgive myself. Hence, while you embark on this journey, there will be lot of painful strings attached to it. Be prepared to have headache and heart breaks.

Finally, I meet him. We shared a similar love for the family and possessed a mutual passion for life. When I was with him, I felt secure. We were not afraid to ask questions or discuss about negatives.

Realize, no couple is happy 24*7 and cuddles all the time. If this basic law of marriage is understood, then 50% of the marriage problems will be solved.

Any successful marriage will undergo hurt and bitterness. It’s always good to vent out and argue. Healthy couples eventually learn from it, instead of exploding and making the situation worse. We learn by living.

Choosing your partner is once-a life-time decision and the consequence will impact or change the lives of you and your family.

When you choose a partner based on the butterfly chill moments it might go wrong! 
When you choose based on matching criteria, it might go wrong!

Choose when both the mind and soul are in sync, it will help to have a higher level of serenity in marriage.

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