Tips to De-Stress Super Moms

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Tips to De-stress your Mom.

Outside the Home:

"Your daughter is still not married. She is already 24"   ~ Ms.Assassination.

"Is your son still jobless"   ~ Ms.Bossy

"You don't own a house yet” ~Ms.Cunning.

"This saree color does not suit you" ~ Ms. Jealous

Inside the Home:

"Mom, Understand. I did not like that groom. I can't get married for the sake of your relatives. And please don’t bring this topic again and NOW' please leave me alone"

~ Daughter

"Ma, Need 1000 rupees and I told you to iron my shirt. You didn't" ~ Son

"You forgot to pay current bill. You do that every time. How many things I can take care of?" ~ Husband

"Sorry ma, my daughter not feeling well. Need another day leave" - Maid

"Your performance is not up to the mark" - Manager @ work.

"Did you get those medicines?" - Father in law

"Your never keep the house clean." - Daughter in law.

Mom is the person where all the family members vent out all the pressure. Isn't?

"Mom are you not fed-up on tolerating our frustrations? Are you not stressed out by cooking and working for us?" I asked my mom once.

Her answer was, "Everything gets wiped out, when I see my children and family happy. I get stressed out only when you guys are not happy."

Mom, she lives only for her family. In her life span, she never gets time to take care of her. She never even shows her pain or illness outside.

A Mother's Life cycle:

In the above life cycle’ a mom does not have time to take care of herself. So, it’s our responsibility to give her that time and distress her.

               

Below are the five tips to make your mom#StressFreeMom this week:

1. Give her a break. - Clean your home. Cook and surprise your mom. (Side Effects - Mom will get sick or food poison by eating the food you prepared)
2. Take her a vacation (Side Effects - all her thoughts would be around her home and house hold duties. She will not enjoy the vacation)
3. Offer her soothing music (Side Effects - lol, she will never ever open the CD cover. She would feel much happier when you offer the remote during her favorite serial, but again serial would put her in pressure again.) 
4. Say, "I love you mom" and offer a kiss. (Side Effects -She will get doubt that you did something wrong. Her reply on hearing I love you would be, "What mistake you did now?" "Are you in love with someone" "No, I can’t approve for outing with your friends")
5. Take her for a walk. (Side Effects - At night - She might need bed rest or her leg must have clotted after walking for so long")

So at the end MISSION FAILED!!!

What is the only feasible, easy, convenient one to #StressFreeMom.?

When she is done with all the cooking and while taking rest follow the below steps.

Request your mom to close the eyes and massage her scalp in deep circular movements and offer her a wonderful rejuvenating oil massage with Parachute Advansed Aromatherapy Oil. This oil contains herbs like Lavender, Rosemary & Bergamot. Lavender is known for Antidepressant properties and it treats insomnia and anxiety. The aromatic rosemary is widely used for healing and purification. It stimulates the brain and improves the memory. The Bergamot oil reduces the body temperature and acts as a good relaxant. A peaceful Massage with these herbs is a proven method to reduce the stress and it will improve the overall mental and physical performance.

Getting a massage from daughter/son would give a double benefit than getting at a luxury spas, since this massage is mixed with love and comfort.

Have you not felt mother’s food taster than restaurant foods?

What are you waiting for? Offer her a long relaxing massage today and observe how deep and relaxed she sleeps today. 

Warning:

If you want to offer a massage for neck pain or back pain, its better to consult a trained Massage therapy expert.            

 “I’m blogging about why my mother needs to de-stress with a Parachute Advansed Aromatherapy Oil massage for the #StressFreeMom activity at BlogAdda.”

Women in Leadership - EMPOWER, ENGAGE, ELEVATE

This article was shortlisted and published in Shethepeople.tv

Women in Leadership

With the successful female entrepreneurs like Rajashree Nambiar, Naina Lal, Manisha Lath Gupta, Chanda Kochar, Priyanka Aggarwal,..Etc. it’s evident that women are overcoming the obstacles and reaching heights than anticipated. The situations are getting improved when compared to the decades and the percentage of women in leadership roles are substantial increasing. But does that not mean that, all women are proving themselves?. There are women who still settle for less or give up in the middle of their career journey.

How can organizations develop an environment to Empower women? Here are my views:

Revise the organization goals:

When the organization goals are scrutinized, it’s obvious that they focus only on the financial goals and customer satisfaction. On the other hand, an individual success are measured based on the individual deliverable. This needs to be revised. For a manager, the success factor has to be determined on how far they motivate their women sub-ordinates towards leadership goals. And for an individual, it should be determined based on how far they are preparing themselves for the leadership progression.

It’s a sad truth that men don’t prefer to work under a female boss. And the saddest truth, even women don’t prefer to work under a female boss. Female bosses are considered as dominant, vengeful and at times an assassination. Just because a person has had a bitter experience with a women leader, it’s not necessary that all the women will be the same way.

Organization should highlight the pros of having a female leader to both the genders and should train their women leaders to deal with employees. They should be taught that “Leadership position” is a highly influence position for others.

Organization can tie up with other organization and can appoint a mentor who would help and guide the women leader.

Re-define the definition of success:

Most of my friends believes that success of a woman is only when they have a good understanding life partner and kids. They are in fact tagged with the below formula.

Understanding Life partner + one caring daughter and one lovable son +financially well-settled = 100% success of a women.

Most of the women do not have a separate dimension for their professional life. A woman needs to be taught about the values of success in their career as well. They need to be trained and motivated towards leadership skills

Reasons for failure:

Every woman when born is so ambitious. Even when I joined the corporate, the corporate success journey of my Managing Director from an ordinary woman to an extraordinary leader was my inspiration. I aspired to become like her. But as the journey moved on, I tend to give up.

Women tend to give up their ambition easily due to the politics and criticism. Women are imposed to many myth from the childhood such as,

 "Success in corporate means No personal life." 

"High achieving women don’t respect their husband and family"

These myths make men to take a back seat in encouraging their women at home towards career ladder.

Also, we are tuned that Men are credible, focused and can handle situation and deadlines well when compared to women. Whereas women are too emotional and tend to give importance to family than career. Though these stereotypes are getting changed, men don’t acknowledge women and leadership traits that easily. The mindset of both male and female needs to be changed.

Finally, to all my dear sisters overs there, don't settle for less. Try something new every day. Keep experiment yourself everyday!!!

Nature gifted women with the bliss of Motherhood not only to nurture and inspire their own children, but to inspire and nurture many people through the Leadership...

Be an inspiring woman that every men would look for...

Written for  #EveryWomanIsALeader campagin.

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