The Definition of Love : A Heartfelt Surprise

It’s 12:00 A.M, and the rain drizzles softly,  

As if the world itself is joining my birthday celebration.  

Standing with the gifts, beside the jacuzzi,  

I watch the rain play across the open-theatre.

I remember every time I said, "I love you," you would just smile and turn away.

You never acknowledged my words or whispered "love you too" in return. 

Instead, you always brushed it off, calling me dramatic or flim-eee.

Whenever I asked, "Will you marry me?"  

Your answers were never straightforward;  

"Don’t you already know?," You always replied with a mysterious shrug.

Can you believe it? In all these years we have shared,  

Whether in our relationship or through marriage,

Never ever once you said "I love you."

Maybe that attitude is what drew me to you,  

Making me fall deeply and passionately.  

Yes, I couldn’t help but fall for you, 

And you crafted moments to lead me to propose you.

With all of this, I had come to believe,  

That practicality was all that you were,  

That I should expect no love languages 

or grand gestures from you.

But now, as you slowly removed your shirt,  

My heart skipped a beat.  

At first, I thought, "Oh no, not another child!"  

As you revealed the gift with love in your eyes,

My eyes fixed on it, and I was left dumbstruck.

Never in my wildest dreams 

Did I imagine you would go this far.

Lost in the moment, unable to speak.  

Your gesture shattered my expectations,  

Leaving me breathless.

There, etched onto your chest, was my name— A PERMANENT TATTO

I was flabbergasted, and in that moment,  

Still I am wondering about your love with confusion.  

 

The love you have for me is so hard to follow,  

And, I find myself unable to fully express it in words.

Bond of Mother and Child

This article was submitted for the Making Moms Proud | Mother's Day contest 2024, organized by Gold Winner.

As Mother's Day approaches, my heart reminisce with the unbreakable bond between my mother and me. It was a day etched in my memory, ten days before my due date, when my world tilted on its axis.

The urgency in the hospital walls echoed as the doctor's grave expression mirrored the gravity of the situation. The words "increased fetal blood flow" and "emergency c-section" hung heavily in the air.

Months of dedication to achieving a normal delivery, including a daily 10,000-step walk, one hour of pelvic floor exercises, an hour of prenatal yoga in the evening, and 100 squats, flashed before my eyes. The flood of emotions was overwhelming, and the hopes for a natural birth seemed distant.

In that moment, all I wanted was to avoid the surgery. "Give me an injection to induce labor pain," I pleaded, hoping for a different outcome. But reality set in as the doctor explained the risks, and I reluctantly agreed to the c-section.

In this turn of events, my husband's promise to stand by me broke as responsibilities called, compelling him to depart from the hospital. He assured me he would return within two hours. I clutched his hand, seeking solace in his presence, but he reluctantly released his grip and left me to navigate the anxious hours ahead alone.

The pre-procedure preparations began, but I had a phobia for Injections. When the nurse attempted to insert the needle into my vein for the first time, my hands swelled, and blood flowed heavily. Tears streamed down my face as the nurse made another attempt, resulting in a torrent of blood and tears from my eyes.

My mother rushed to the hospital as soon as she heard the news, joining me in this emotional turmoil. Tears started dropping like rain as my mother came near, holding my hand and asking, 'Is everything really good?'

Her strict upbringing during my childhood resulted in a distinct lack of closeness between us. It was the first time she held my hand; we had rarely touched or sat close for years.

In that moment, her touch spoke volumes, bridging years of disconnect. I have always known my mother to be a pillar of strength, never letting her emotions show. Yet, as I reflect on her unwavering discipline and sacrifices, I realize that her guidance has shaped me in profound ways. Her strength became a living example of how to navigate challenges and pursue career goals.

With her by my side, I confessed,"I am a failure," 

"You are strong," she affirmed, drawing from her own experiences of childbirth.

My mother gently brushed my head and spoke, "Ramya, your sister's birth was a normal delivery for me. However, for you, it was twelve hours of labor, sleepless nights, and ultimately an emergency c-section for our well-being. In those times, c-sections were stigmatized."

My mother continued, "Few things are not in hand. You are strong; you will recover swiftly. This thought will fade once you hold your child," she affirmed. Her words of comfort induced confidence in me as she wiped my tears, and I cooperated with the nurse.

As I was wheeled towards the operating room, I not only went with emotional and physical strength but also with resilience inherited from generations of strong women. My mother's hand on mine, a silent vow of support, gave me the courage to embrace the journey ahead.

Motherhood, I realized, isn't just about giving birth; it's about enduring and learning. My journey to motherhood was marked by challenges, but it was also adorned with support and the enduring strength passed down through generations.

To all the mothers who navigate storms with grace, love unconditionally, and inspire resilience, Happy Mother's Day. You are the pillars of strength, the silent warriors who shape futures with love, courage, and unwavering determination.

As the doctor announced, "It's a B-O-Y... boy," and I heard his first cry, the way of his arrival—whether through c-section or natural birth—faded into insignificance. 

In that moment, he became my world, filling my heart with love.

My First Love

Ah, the sweetness of #firstlove! The fluttering hearts, butterflies in the stomach, the rosy cheeks, and the shy glances—except mine wasn't a typical love story. No, my heart belonged to something on wheels, something that whispered promises of pride: "My First Car". They say #lifepartners are meant to travel the journey together, but here is my life partner: my car, truly my #travelpartner.

In 2010, in my small town of Erode, seeing a woman behind the wheel was as rare as spotting a ghost—utterly non-existent. Yet, I made the decision because I couldn't bear to see my dad commuting by bus or two-wheeler anymore. And so, the quest for a car commenced. 

Those days Chevrolet Sparks were everywhere, with those cute ads blinking on TV. But they were too pricey for me. I went for the Tata Nano—small, affordable, and perfect for the roads. However, dad was skeptical, comparing it to an auto-rickshaw. Then, there was Maruti, safe and secure like a government job. Yet, I hesitated, remembering my sister's wedding gift Maruti Alto.

So, the search for the perfect car continued. We scoured through various brands until we stumbled upon Hyundai's showroom. And there he was—the Eon, with his stylish body shape and irresistible charm.

Took a test drive, instantly fell in love, and made my mind: he's going to be mine. I felt a connection and knew we were meant to be together.

At 3.58 lakh, it was a hefty sum for a young woman like me. Pulled together all my savings from those many years and made the decision to bring him home. I'll never forget the sheer joy plastered across my face as I embarked on my trip with Mom and Dad by my side. That car wasn't just a mode of transportation; it was my emotions.  

Every single week, I would travel back to Bangalore, leaving my man behind, much like a man who leaves his family for work. I left him, promising that I would be back soon. Meanwhile, my dad would diligently clean the car every single day to keep it spotless. My cousin Sanju, who was just 2 years old at the time and adored cars, would eagerly take off his shirt and offer it to clean the car. 

Not a single scratch, not a single mistake—every time I took the car out, it took care of me. We attended weddings together, embarked on temple trips to Pollachi, and even spent a week at a farm alongside him. It felt like the car was the fourth member of our family. So many cherished memories, including that unforgettable drive through the hills of Ooty. 

Wait, wait, I almost forgot about the naming ceremony! It was the tradition in those days, we used to paste all our family names, including maternal, paternal, and sisternal names, on the car. You could leave someone's name off the marriage invitation, but you couldn't miss anyone's name on the car; But Well, Instead of names, I adorned it with a sticker declaring "I love my dad and mom" on the car. It's like a tattoo projecting my love for it.

I won't bore much with the mushy details of my love and emotions—all I could say is it's so close to my heart. 

***Intermission ***

I tied the knot, and like every love story, a villain appeared in the form of BOY BESTIE my husband, ready to give a twist, shake, and brake to the love story that started so many years ago. He always had a soft spot for my car because it was cute, small, and compact—a city dweller's dream. While I preferred to keep my love cruising at a modest 60 km/h, he had other plans, revving it up to a wild 120! Every time he presses the accelerator beyond 100, I would feel like he's trying to pull my heart out. He would always take it on bumpy roads, put sudden breaks, leaving my poor car with pain, and then he have the audacity to claim, "I'm handling it better than you😄!"

Life moved on, and I found out I was pregnant, but before I could even show him the pregnancy test results, he took away my car keys, declaring it unsafe for me to drive. "You'll vomit, get dizzy—not safe," he'd say. A first shock! Like a true BOY BESTIE besides, he was doing his job. 

After that, I had a child, and for the next three years, he insisted, "No, let the boy grow, no more driving." For almost four years, I couldn't touch my car, and in frustration, feeling disconnected from my love for so long, I suggested selling my Eon, but deep down, I didn't mean it. The very next day, a man was waiting with my husband, ready to take my beloved car away. I reluctantly signed the papers for selling and name transfer. My love was taken away without a second look, and the pain I endured is indescribable. Sometimes our love story shatters in a single moment, and no matter how much we wish, it cannot be reverse and life rolled on.

Now, after many years, the discussion of a compact car arose again, and with it, memories of my first love story flooded back. Many years have passed, yet I still cannot forget my Eon—it's more than just a car to me. No one knows the depth of what I went through. 

We visited numerous showrooms and explored various car options. With each car, I found some ridiculous reason to reject, just like the simple excuses we use to dismiss potential suitors during bride-seeing ceremonies—no mustache, too fair, his name is too common...you name it! My reasons for rejecting cars were: it's too big, not stylish enough, doesn't have that girly vibe. 

Oh, then I was practically forced into this marriage with my car. I mean, forced to stick to this KWID. Look at Mr. Climber over there, he looks seriously <BEEP BEEP CENSORED>! He couldn't stand next to my Eon even if he tried!I wasn't ready to imagine anything coming close to what my Eon means to me. "You were my first love, I can't have anyone in your place," I silently whispered.

Just like a forced marriage where we whisper, "Dai, don't tie the knot, don't tie the knot!" There he is, tying my knot of marriage over. Well, I meant I paid an advance for Renault KWID, a month ago. 

But I really did not like him. I know I can't take it anymore; broken is broken, shatter is shatter. I firmly decided I don’t need KWID. I declined, realizing I didn't need it, and moved on. Yes, a car is an emotion for a few, especially when it brings such profound feelings for you and your family. When I was alone, it traveled with me, a faithful companion on my life's journey. For me, the Eon isn't just a car; it was my love and will be love, my trusted companion on the road(Journey) of life.

Yes, we all have these first loves—be it people, houses, cars, or jobs—that remain unfulfilled due to family situations or other circumstances. They leave an indelible mark on our hearts, shaping our memories and experiences for years to come. But the pain we carry remains hidden because, as they say, life moves on.  

Goa to Growth

This article won the Writing Contest organized by NTT DATA.

I am uncertian who in the world likes me,  but I do know one thing for sure – the fate has a serious crush on me, constantly throwing in unexpected twists, connections, experiences, and opportunities in my life. (It's like the universe's way of saying, "evolo adichalum thanguran, iva romba Nalava da...")

One such connection between Goa and my journey with NTT DATA have made an impact and transformed my life.

It all began during a much-anticipated family trip to Goa, a needed escape after the dark cloud of the COVID-19 pandemic. As I soaked up in the warm embrace of the sun and relished the joy of being with my loved ones, a call from HR brought the news of my eagerly awaited offer letter. Fate had a funny way of aligning the stars, as my joining date happened to fall on the infamous 13th of June. Superstitions surrounding the number thirteen danced in my mind, but I couldn't resist the synchronicity of the situation. Despite my playful plea to change the joining date, it remained unchanged. And so, my journey with NTT DATA began on 13th June.

I embarked with a new project, presenting a myriad of challenges, and learning opportunities. Bullets of adversity seemed to rain down from every direction, testing the limits of my resilience and determination. Yet, I pressed on, surviving, and surpassing each trial. Through this journey, I realized that every struggle was moulding me into a stronger, more capable version of myself.

Day after day, I embraced the exhilarating dance of growth and evolution. I discovered that there is no such thing as an ordinary day. Every single day is a chance to learn, adapt, and thrive. This realization transformed my perspective, infusing a renewed sense of purpose into my work and personal life.

And did I mention about the connection between Goa and NTT DATA? Well, it lies in the journey itself—just as Goa surprises with an exquisite beaches and vibrant nightlife, my journey with NTT DATA has been filled with unforeseen twists and late-night coding sessions fuelled by countless cups of chai, innovative ideas that blossom amidst collaboration with talented colleagues, and the triumph of overcoming challenging goals—all these moments have contributed to the journey of my enthralling experience.

And yes, just like a sun kissed Goan sunset, we always emerge stronger, innovative, and ready to conquer the countless adventures that still lie ahead.

Surviving LKG Admissions

I heard rumors about parents camping overnight just to hitch that golden ticket—the LKG admission form. I thought those were jokes until we had to camp out at night for my son's LKG admission form.

A chilly night, sleeping bags, and a campsite those are the mental images that pop up when I think of trekking. But today, here we are camping outside the school gate, navigating the wild terrain of kindergarten admission.

It was 5 AM, and we queued up in a line longer than the first-day, first-show ticket queue for a Rajinikanth blockbuster. Please forgive for comparing a valued education with that of a movie star – but, hey, kindergarten admission waits for no one, not even Thalaiva! 

The admission counter swung open its doors promptly at 9 AM, and we were sorted into neat rows by classes—LKG, UKG and so on. As there were limited availability of application forms, our early rise proved fruitful in swiftly navigating through the initial hurdle of acquiring that document. With the prized application form secured, it was time to gear up for the next level of this academic game.

Now, we braced for the first hurdle—shortlisting. The school invested an entire month meticulously reviewing and shortlisting the submitted application forms. Guess what? We cracked the code, and the school hit us with the silver ticket – an interview scheduled for Nov 21. 

Interview Day:

As parents, we naively assumed the preschool interview would be a breeze—just the basics, you know, like name, age, and maybe a casual "hello" and "goodbye." But we never thought would've thought that getting into preschool would be as intense as a job interview for a CEO position. 

While other parents were arming their toddlers with flashcards and rehearsing the ABCs, we took the laid-back approach. "Let my little one perform from the heart," we thought. Oh, how innocent we were.

But then we decided and prepped our little prodigies with the crucial life questions: "What's your name?" "What is your mom name?" "What is your dad name?" and for some extra credit, "What's your grandparents' names?" Genius, right?

The day arrived, and we were the first ones to reach the school at 1:00, even though the interview was scheduled at 1:30. They let us inside first. Our kiddo walked into the interview like a mini rockstar, and the teacher started with the first three questions, confidently answering them. We were mentally high-fiving each other, feeling like the we cracked the preschool prep. But then came the twist: the teacher pulled out a sheet with questions and marks and said, "Let's get into the interview."

Wait what—no, a question paper! Fifty marks worth of questions, if you can believe it. Ten for math (yes, math for LKG!), ten for colors, ten for speaking(Generic questions), ten for moral values, and ten for shapes. 

Then they handed my kid a bunch of crayons and said, "Go Hethvick!" The task was simple: the teacher called out a color, and my little artist had to pick that color and paint it inside a designated box labeled with the color name. They threw ten colors at him, and my boy nailed every single one.

Then, the interview took a cosmic turn. They asked him, "What comes in the morning? What comes in the evening? And if the moon shows up, what's do you do?" Seriously, who knew LKG admissions would require a strategy for lunar encounters?

Surprisingly, my little one responded to all the questions. It was only later that I realized this was an ICSE admission interview, and that's why they asked most of the questions with a twist.

But lo and behold, my son aced every question thrown his way. That's when it dawned on us—the incredible power of his observations. Even when the questions took a twist, my kiddo didn't miss a beat—answering them with ease and leaving us in awe of his adaptability.

But the twists didn't stop coming. Next up was a challenge to identify numbers from 1 to 10 on a mysterious scale. They'd call out a number, and my son had to pinpoint it amidst a tight cluster of numerals. Then, just when we thought it couldn't get more interesting, they threw in shapes like circles and rectangles, asking him to showcase his shape-spotting prowess. It was like a mini-game show, and my little contestant was stealing the spotlight! 

Finally, when the marathon concluded, the teacher spun around and aimed the spotlight on us, launching a barrage of questions. "What's your purpose? How will you teach your kids when you're both working?" It felt like we were on a reality show, and the prize was our kid's admission. Once the inquisition was over, the teacher gracefully transitioned into explaining the fee structure and admission process, as if we had just survived a quirky game show episode. 

That's when the wave of confidence hit us like a kindergarten success tsunami! But, alas, for the final result we had to endure an additional month of anticipation. It's not just about academic prowess; there are bonus points for being a Christian, having a preference for teachers in the family, alumni connections, and the list goes on. Fingers crossed we ace these criteria too; it's like navigating a maze of admission intricacies! 

Love Takes Over

As I sit down to write this letter, you are just a 4-year-old boy, eagerly preparing for a 10-day stay at grandparents' house for the Dussehra holiday.

Happy Family Enjoying a Picnic Together

When I first made the decision to send you to grandparents' home for this holiday, my uncertainties lingered. Your uncle had plans to pick you up from Bangalore, and I wondered if you would willingly join him and enjoy the 10 days without us.

But you were so eager and enthusiastic about the idea of spending time with grandparents, aunt's family, and cousins Raakshit and Sravantha. I watched you pack your little bag with such care, and every night, you slept with it right beside you. Your excitement was infectious. You even prepared pizza for your uncle, saved chocloates, cleaned the house, and made the beds for him, and it made me smile to see you so independent, even at such a tender age. 

Getting ready🌴 My little explorer carefully packing #FamilyVacation #TravelPrep

As a parent, I consciously made this decision because I wanted to teach independence through this. Above all, I want you to embrace the unconditional love that your grandparents and aunt's family are showering upon you and kindle the bond with cousin.

I will miss you for these ten days, but that's how life goes. I know, as a parent, I must be prepared for this. And then, when it is time for your graduation, you might have dreams that take you across the ocean. I will admit it or probably cry at the thought of you being so far away. But I must be strong, remembering that you are pursuing your dreams and becoming the person you want to be.

Again, One day, you will stumble upon the love of your life, tie the knot, and spread your wings. The thought of you leaving the nest is a hard pill for me to swallow, but I'll bear it because I realize it's a life's slice and crucial for your happiness and personal growth😄. Hence, As mother and son, we must learn to live independently, embracing life's core values like finding happiness within ourselves. Whether we stay with our loved ones or venture to new places, we should be adaptable.

Thinking about all this, I was hoping that when you wave bye now, I would be over the moon, thinking I would finally get a break from your mischief with the sensation that "pondati oorukku poita" (wife has gone to her maternal home), and I would be scream "my son oorukku poitan" (my son has gone to his grandsparents home)! 😂 #MomLife

But when I waved you goodbye and returned home, it was like a ghost town. The floors were as dry as a desert, missing your magical ability to turn them into a water wonderland. The walls cried out for your artistic touch, and I yearned for our heartwarming chats with your sweet, eye-blinking reactions. The house stood frozen in time, akin to a museum exhibit, with everything perfectly in its place. 😄🏡 We missed the sight of you rushing to the doorbell, eagerly anticipating a parcel or a visitor. The shelf I had tidied up remained shockingly neat, defying your playful nature. I always caution against bed-wetting, but when the bed stayed fresh, spotless, and fragrant, I couldn't help but miss you😄

My dear, hey, wait, I am the one missing you here! Do you really miss me? You have been so happy for the past week, not showing any signs of missing me. Of Course, every kid will go crazy when they have zero restrictions to dive into mounds of chocolate, binge-watch shorts on mobile devices, and, best of all, revel in maximum pampering! 😄🍫📺🛋️. So, I know you might not miss me! 😉 And I understand you were probably trying to escape from this "super spy strict mom." 🕵️‍♀️😂

However, as you bid goodbye, I glimpsed your face, and for a brief moment, it bore a wistful expression. It spoke volumes of the love you hold for us.

With all my love,

Your mamma

Flying High with Loved Ones : A Journey of Love

When it comes to celebrating the special people in our lives, finding the perfect gift can be a challenge. For me, that special person is my husband, and I have always believed that a gift should be unique, memorable, and filled with love. 

Party like it's your day

Having previously presented him with 33 diverse gifts for his 33rd birthday, each with its unique meaning, I found choosing this year's gift to be quite a challenge. Moreover, he had already set the bar high for my own birthday celebrations. Hence, I was determined to create a birthday experience that he would cherish forever.

The Idea Takes Flight:

While I was brainstorming ideas for the perfect birthday gift, a conversation sparked by watching the movie "Vimanam" ignited his deep desire to take his parents on a flight journey at least once in their lifetime. That is when it hit me – his birthday gift would be a surprise flight experience for his parents!

The Planning:

With this exciting idea in mind, I started planning our journey. I knew that I had to keep this a secret from my husband to make it truly special. His parents were due to visit us in Bangalore around Grandparents' Day on September 9th, but they had not confirmed their travel plans yet due to thier work commitments.

Selecting the Destination:

Selecting the perfect destination was of paramount importance. I had to meticulously select a place that not only offered comfort but also catered to their health requirements, ensured timely meal arrangements, and a shorter travel duration. With just three days remaining, the timeframe was relatively short, and flight ticket prices were on the rise, while most resorts had already been booked. 

With these challenges, my plan was still wavering between various flight journeys, including options from Bangalore to Goa, Bangalore to Chennai, Bangalore to Coimbatore, or even Bangalore to Mangalore. However, since Goa and Mangalore were relatively unfamiliar to us, I decided to stick with the familiar route Chennai or Coimbatore.

I considered the itinerary which involved traveling from Bangalore to Coimbatore via flight and then reaching Erode via cab, but I had concerns that the trip might feel too short for the grand birthday celebration I had in mind.

Finally, after a lot of contemplation, I settled on the Bangalore to Chennai flight route, striking the right balance for our trip. But there was another decision to make – the destination. Should it be Chennai, Mahabalipuram, or Pondicherry?

The Surprise:

As soon as their parents confirmed their trip to Bangalore, on September 6th, I took the plunge and booked Air Asia flight tickets for all of us, including my 4-year son, who would be experiencing his first flight journey. I was thrilled but nervous, knowing that I had to keep this a secret from my husband until the big day.

Making it Extra Special:

Our flight was scheduled to land in Chennai at 5:15 PM, and the next item on my agenda was to arrange for transportation for our commute. When I attempted to rent a vehicle, I found that most rental services required us to go to their office to pick up the car and return it afterward, which would eat up a significant amount of our precious time. 

That is when my brain decided to sprinkle on some extra surprise and excitement. I reached out to the one and only Ganesh Anna for some expert advice. And guess what? He came up with this gem of an idea - "Take a pit stop in Mahabalipuram, a wonderful place" 

And just to show how grateful we were for his "world-class" expertise, we convinced him to lend us his car for a two-day. He was such a sweetheart that he showed up at the airport, car keys in hand, ready to hand over the keys for our ride!

So, here is the master plan, folks! The Itinerary goes like this:

**Saturday: ** The big day! At 12 o'clock sharp, I will unveil the surprise to my husband. The next day book us a cab to whisk us away to Bangalore airport. Our destination: Chennai. From there, we will head straight to Mahabalipuram for a peaceful night's stay, where we can kick back and bask in the coastal beauty.

**Sunday:** After a leisurely morning in Mahabalipuram, we'll either make our way to Pondicherry or decide to stay and explore Mahabalipuram itself (which we lovingly call "Pondy Junier."). 

Then, on Monday, we will return to Erode or Bangalore. 

Birthday surprise: Mission accomplished

As the days drew closer to my husband's birthday, I couldn't help but feel a mix of excitement and nervousness. The anticipation of the surprise and the joy of creating this special memory for my husband and his parents filled my heart with happiness. Sometimes, the best gifts are not material possessions but experiences that bring loved ones closer together, and I couldn't wait to see the smiles on their faces as we embarked on this unexpected travel. Stay tuned to find out how the surprise unfolds and the memories we create along the way!

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Midnight Cake and Dance Parties: My Birthday Bliss

 A Birthday to Remember: Celebrating Life, Love, and Unexpected Surprises

It was August 9, and I couldn't help but feel the excitement brewing. This year, as I mentioned, it's going to be a milestone birthday. and I decided to take the day off on August 10th. 

My husband's plan was to lull my child and me into a deep sleep so he could decorate and surprise us at the stroke of 12:00 AM. But our son had some plans of his own. He chose to break his usual sleeping schedule, keeping the excitement alive until 11 PM, in contrast to his usual bedtime of 7:30 PM.  Zany...Birthday excitement was spreading through the house!

With the workday behind us, we hopped into the car for a night journey at 10 PM. Our goal was to get a birthday cake to cut at midnight and discover an ideal spot to welcome the new year of my life. After a 15-mile drive and scouting until 11:30, our cake quest hit a roadblock – no cake shops in sight! But just when it seemed like a cake-less birthday, fate intervened. We spotted a half-shuttered Baskin Robbins about to close. When we inquired about the reason for not closing the shop, he added, "The shop's regular closing time is 10 PM today, but I couldn't meet the targets, so I decided to keep it open. The main reason for only using the half-shutter is that the police could come by at any time."

We quickly nabbed a cake, revved up the car, and headed to a party hall. The party hall stretched out expansively before us, with the romantic glow of a lavish restaurant arrangement, and to our delight, we discovered that we were the sole occupants of this enchanting space. It was as though the universe had conspired to reserve it exclusively for our rendezvous.

We ordered tasty chicken, and at midnight, we gathered around to cut the cake, where my husband surprised me with not one but seven beautifully wrapped boxes! It turns out, they were all handmade Jewelry crafted with real flowers from leafy affair. 

The morning sun greeted us, and my little one headed off to school. My husband and I decided to spend some quality time together by playing a game of table tennis and reliving the joy of our companionship. The afternoon brought a unique excitement: a movie date. It was the first day, the first show, and my son, who was an ardent admirer of Rajinikanth, eagerly wanted a whistle. We arrived at the movie hall early and decided to pass the time by playing games at Timezone. My son aimed to buy a whistle with the points he had earned, but they fell short. We were prepared to purchase it, but the shopkeeper informed us that it could only be acquired with points. She suggested that we engage in a game that would earn us more points and encouraged me to participate in my son's games to accumulate more. After a few rounds and gathering enough points, we finally purchased the whistle, and it turned out to be an absolute blast! Playing with my son in the kids' section, felt like having another cherished memory. 

The day remained brimming with energy, and when we returned home, thinking the delightful surprises were over, I was pleasantly taken aback by yet another cake. This time, it was a thoughtful gift from my husband through FNP, and they presented it beautifully, resembling a bouquet. This surprise deeply touched my heart and added an extra layer of specialness to my day. 

Later, We went to dinner at Gold Rush, a cowboy-themed restaurant where the wide-open space offered a genuine taste and far away from the madding crowd. After spending a lot of time together, we finished dinner, and as we were leaving, we realized they had a dance floor. To our surprise, no one was there, and the DJ played songs just for us. Once again, the three of us enjoyed the music and danced like nobody was watching, celebrating the happiness that life brings.

As night settled in, I found myself on the balcony, lost in thoughts, the moonlight casting a romantic glow around me.It was in these quiet moments that I realized how incredibly fortunate I am, surrounded by the love of my family and the beauty of life itself.

Tickles and Tears

It was a seemingly ordinary evening when I decided to take my son out to play. Little did I know that a valuable, albeit painful, lesson and some damage awaited me.

As we were enjoying ourselves, small raindrops began falling on my cheeks, signaling that a heavy downpour was on its way. Realizing this, I urged my son to head back home, but he was determined to go to the indoor play area instead. I had no choice but to follow him.

The rain soon intensified, accompanied by strong gusts of wind that seemed relentless for a continuous 15 minutes. Panic set in as I remembered leaving my bedroom window open, and I live on a sky-scraping floor. The thought of my laptop and other belongings being flooded terrified me. I also questioned if I had closed the main living room door. Stuck inside due to the rain, those 15 minutes felt like an eternity under immense pressure.

When the rain finally stopped, I pleaded with my son to head home, but he was busy playing with his friends and refused. Seeing my distress, a kind friend offered to take care of him while I rushed back. However, upon returning, I found my bedroom in a state of chaos. All my laptops were soaked, the bed was completely wet, and precious books were now damaged. 

Initially, I felt anger towards my son for not coming with me when I asked him to, as it could have prevented this incident. But now, I realized there was no use dwelling on it; the damage was done, and cleaning up would take 45 minutes of my time. I had to prioritize picking up my son since my friend couldn't look after him for long due to other commitments.

On my way to get my son, I remembered that the incident was partly my fault too. I should have closed the window before leaving. It wasn't fair to expect a child to anticipate such occurrences, and closing a window for a short out might not be practical. My anger subsided, and I learned the value of postponing my reactions.

Upon reaching the indoor play area, I explained the situation to my son, hoping he would show some shock and decide to come home with me. However, with a big smile, he simply said, "I want to play."

At first, this frustrated me, but I managed to ask him politely to come with me. After 15 minutes of pleading and patiently waiting, he finally agreed to come with me.

As we reached home, he hurried to the bedroom to see the flood. On spotting the pool of water, he couldn't resist turning it into a splash zone! He jumped in like a dolphin, thoroughly enjoying himself. II reached for the mop to clean up, but he snatched it from me, eager to help. However, he ended up making an even bigger mess. 

During my busy working day, 45 minutes is precious time I can't afford to invest. I had important meetings to attend as well. Growing angrier, I requested him to hand me the mop, but he refused.Frustrated, I left the place and started cleaning up once he was done.

As a parent, I've always aspired to be gentle, opting for a friendly approach rather than raising my voice and yelling in frustration. However, I've come to realize that the children of today have an uncanny ability to test our patience and drive us to the edge of madness.

As tears welled up in my eyes, I couldn't help but think, where my parents never even bothered to support me for a day.

As I grappled with the urge to escape to a place where solitude reigned, my mind echoed a wise reminder: "While children may test our limits, it is essential to find a balance between firmness and empathy, We must learn to foster a loving relationship with our little ones, regardless of the challenges that come our way."

Trapped in Darkness: A Thrilling Survival

Struck in the Lift

As I stepped into the lift, a sense of unease washed over me. Thoughts raced through my mind, filling me with worry and fear. Ignoring these feelings, I pressed the button to go down to the ground floor, unaware of the ordeal that awaited.

Suddenly, the power went out, leaving me in complete darkness. Panic took hold as I realized I couldn't see anything. I reached for my phone, hoping to find some light or a way to call for help. But to my dismay, there was no signal. I was cut off from the outside world, alone in the darkness.

Time stretched on, and my panic grew. I tried shouting for assistance, but there was no response. The lift remained still, refusing to open its doors. I felt isolated and helpless, with no way to escape the terrifying situation.

Fear consumed my thoughts, flooding my mind with dreadful possibilities. What if the lift was broken and it would take hours for anyone to notice? How would I survive in this confined space for so long? These thoughts weighed heavily on me, intensifying my anxiety.

Just as despair threatened to consume me, a flicker of hope appeared. The lift jerked back to life, slowly opening its doors. Relief washed over me, and I felt a surge of adrenaline. It was my chance to escape from the suffocating darkness.

I stumbled out of the lift, grateful to be back in the outside world. Though I still had a pounding headache and my heart raced, I was filled with a sense of freedom. Overcoming my deepest fears, I realized the strength within me to face adversity head-on.

My terrifying experience of being trapped in a broken lift taught me the power of resilience. No matter how dark or uncertain a situation may seem, we have the ability to find the light and emerge stronger than ever.

The day when even my coffee needs a coffee!

"Friday Friday, Party night, Party night" - After a week of tireless work, we indulge in a Friday night filled with singing, rocking, and devouring chicken feasts, while sipping on refreshing Coke and immersing ourselves in an epic movie marathon. It's the perfect way to recharge and reward ourselves for our top-performing efforts.

But today wasn't the right moment to celebrate the end of the workweek. Just like me, some of us feel a jumble of emotions on Fridays, especially when the pressure of deadlines and responsibilities becomes too much to handle.

For the past month, I had been tirelessly working on a project, which forced me to sacrifice my weekends. The exhaustion had taken its toll, and I woke up that morning wishing I could have slept forever. The feeling was akin to torture, and anxiety began to seep into every crevice of my being.

As I battled my own inner turmoil, I noticed my son pleading with us, "I don't want to go to school." His innocent plea caught my attention and tugged at my heartstrings. In that moment, I realized the impact of my stress was having on him. 

In that moment of realization, my super-parenting instincts kicked in. I decided to turn the situation around and transform it into a positive experience for both my son and myself. So, I gently reminded him of my unwavering commitment to attending school every day, proudly mentioning my perfect 100% attendance record.

Meanwhile, my mindvoice whispered, "Ah, the Oscar-worthy performance of my stomach pain drama, a classic tactic to secure a day off from school." 

But my son, in all seriousness, started pleading with earnestness in his eyes.

To lighten the mood, we made a promise to our son. We would let him go to school for only half a day and skip daycare afterward. His face lit up with joy at the prospect of an unexpected adventure. He agreed, on the condition that we only packed one snack box, instead of the usual two. When it came to daycare, he firmly believed in the mantra of two lunch boxes

With our compromise in place, I dropped him off at school, eagerly awaiting lunchtime when I would pick him up. As the clock ticked away, and when the time finally came, I rushed to pick him from school.

With a beaming smile plastered on his face, he came out of school reveled in the bliss of skipping half a day of daycare. The satisfaction on his face was simply priceless.

My thoughts turned inward. I pondered over the question, "Who can help me free my pressure?" 

Work-Life Gone Wild

Life has a funny way of throwing unexpected challenges at us, especially when we think we have everything under control. Like a fearless circus performer effortlessly tossing balls through the air, I prided myself on the balancing art of juggling between personal life and professional life.

As fate would have it, the week that followed turned into an endless cycle of never-ending meetings. Since morning, I had been sitting in front of my laptop, experiencing back pain. As the night approached, the walls appeared to spin around me, engulfing me in a whirlpool of conversations, presentations, and deadlines.

Amidst the chaos of extended work hours, my laptop became the stage for a peculiar performance. Java coding, usually familiar and comprehensible, now danced before my eyes in a foreign language, leaving me bewildered. 

Just when I thought things couldn't get any more chaotic, my son's cries. In a mad rush, I hurried to his side, desperately trying to calm him down and soothe his distress. The exhaustion from work merged with the exhaustion of parenthood, creating a cocktail of fatigue that threatened to overwhelm me.

In the midst of this whirlwind, a message unexpectedly popped up on my screen. It promised a source of income, stating that by allowing a tower to be placed on my house, I could earn an impressive sum of money. In that moment, I couldn't help but laugh at the absurdity of it all. It felt as though the weight of the world was already on my shoulders, so why not add a tower on my head to complete.

As I pondered the madness that had become my daily routine, a thought crossed my mind. Why do we work ourselves to the bone, day and night, sacrificing our well-being for the illusion of success? 

While outsiders may perceive my work as glamorous, only us "ITians" truly understand the glamorous chaos that lies beneath the surface.

In the eerie depths of the night, as the clock shamelessly struck the hour of 1 am, I found myself standing on the balcony, observing the bustling city as it fell into a hushed stillness on Friday. Even the party hard people must have succumbed to a deep slumber. The highways continued to showcase a few buses and cars. 

Suddenly, the piercing wail of the ambulance siren reached my ears, slicing through the air. My mind warned me that if I continued on this path, I would likely meet my graveyard, succumbing to a heart attack at the ripe age of 36.

In the midst of my own self-reflection, I happened to observe a woman making her way to work. She was a house cleaning lady, starting her work at the crack of dawn, there were countless individuals like her, toiling away silently and tirelessly to support their families. It served as a humbling reminder that I was blessed with an extraordinary amount of privilege.

The sound of the team's meeting ringtone blared through my laptop speakers and I logged into yet another meeting. 

Yes, Life has its way of shaking us out of our comfort zones and balancing work and personal life is a constant struggle, but amidst the pain and laughter, we discover our own strength and resilience. 

From Cuddles to Crayons

My dear Son,

As you set foot into school on your first day, a whirlwind of emotions floods my heart. Considering NEP's mandatory requirement for children to be at least four years old, your dad and I have engaged in numerous discussions and decided to enroll you in Nursery instead of LKG. We believe that this choice will provide you with a strong foundation and it holds good for your long-term growth. 

Growing up Fast

We selected a preschool intentionally veering away from mainstream options. The driving force behind this decision was to create an environment where you wouldn't have to wake up at 7 am, endure a one-hour commute through the traffic of Bangalore, and return home feeling exhausted. This phase of your life is meant to be cherished and my dear son, we aim to preserve your childhood innocence while embracing the promising opportunities that await you.

Balancing Friendship, Academics, and the Pursuit of Happiness

As you step into the world of Nursery, as a parent, I choose not to burden you with expectations and want to break the mold and be unique in my approach. However, I couldn't resist the temptation to give you a friendly suggestion.

 

M lil one at School

While I want you to enjoy your time with friends, excel in academics, and participate in extra-curricular activities, there is one important lesson I want you to remember: Never get carried away with the rat race of life.

Surround yourself with kind, supportive, and genuine friends who bring out the best in you. Cherish these friendships and make an effort to be a good friend in return. 

Education is important, and I want you to embrace the opportunities that come with it. Study diligently, engage with your teachers, and explore subjects or activities that ignite your curiosity. Do not study solely for the sake of marks or competition, but do it to expand your knowledge. Education is a lifelong journey, so foster a love for learning that extends beyond the classroom.

Participating in sports and extracurricular activities is an integral part of your school experience and just like mom, you should participate in them. Engage in activities that interest you and bring you joy. Whether it's sports, music, art, or any other pursuit, give it all. Participating in these activities will not only help you develop skills but also teach you important values such as teamwork, discipline, and perseverance.

Remember the Bigger Picture:

While it's important to strive for success, remember that life is not a never-ending race. Do not measure your worth solely by grades, trophies, or external achievements. Take time to pause, reflect, and enjoy the journey. Find balance in your life, make time for hobbies, and cultivate meaningful relationships. Focus on personal growth, emotional well-being, and the pursuit of happiness.

Today marks the beginning of a beautiful journey and as your parent, we will be there to support you, guide you, and celebrate every step of your unique journey. 

Love you My Son. 

The Dilemma of Metro Culture

In today's hyper-caffeinated world, trends change in the blink of an eye and it's not surprising to find ourselves caught up in those culture. One such trend- where parents book a party hall adorned with a specific theme decoration, colorful balloons, wear party hats, exchange return gifts, and indulge in a feast fit for a king. Yes, I am going to pen about the birthday party celebrations that we arrange for our children, primarily in metro cities.

This week, I find myself attending third consecutive birthday party, pondering the implications of this growing trend. One was organized by a close relative, another by our neighbors next door, and the third by my dear friend. Hence, I could decline any of these invitations. After all, avoiding such gatherings goes against the so called rule of social etiquette and risks of isolating ourselves from community. Yet, I question whether this metro culture is truly beneficial for my child and my family values.

As a parent, I've always had a different vision for my child's birthday celebrations – simplicity, quality time with family and a understanding to the deeper meaning of the life. I envisioned taking him to the temple, attending school if it fell on that day, and visiting an orphanage or a senior citizen home to have a sense of empathy and gratitude. However, as the pressure to conform societal expectations mounts, it feels like the essence of these ideas is slipping away.

Now, I find myself at a crossroads. I can no longer avoid hosting extravagant birthday parties for my son. A close friend of mine said that it has become a mandatory ritual, every month, that she is expected to set aside a portion of her income, specifically for these lavish celebrations, all for the sake of a few hours of joy and merriment. It's ironic to think that we used to criticize our parents for extravagant weddings, and now, unintentionally, we find ourselves doing the same.

Where does this cycle end? How can I strike a balance between adhering to societal expectations and staying true to my own values as a parent? These questions weigh heavily on my mind.

Perhaps, it's time for a paradigm shift. Instead of succumbing to the pressure of lavish parties, we can focus on creating meaningful experiences. We can teach our children about the value of money, the importance of giving back to society, and the joy of simple pleasures. By prioritizing these aspects, we can demonstrate that birthdays are not solely about extravagant celebrations, but rather about love, growth, and shared experiences.

Will I be successful in imparting these values that truly matter to my son? Can I convince him that a party is not about receiving gifts, but about planting a tree on his birthday, buying a book to expand his knowledge, or donating his clothes to those in need? Will he come to understand the joy and fulfillment that comes from giving and making a difference in someone else's life?Will my son grow up to value the lessons I strive to teach him, and will he appreciate the choices I make as a parent?

But yeah, It won't be an easy path, but as parent, it is my responsibility to guide my child towards a balanced understanding of life. By striking a balance between the modern metro culture and our own values, we can provide our children with a solid foundation that will empower them to make conscious decisions in the future.

My dear parents, let's embark in redefining the meaning of birthdays, and fostering an environment where simplicity, love, and personal growth take center stage once again.

The Unseen Tears of a Working Mother

Juggling and Struggling #MomLifeBalancingAct

In the wacky world of software, people have this funny notion that women working there live in a world of luxury. They imagine us attending fancy parties every Friday, enjoying a lavish lifestyle and living in luxurious apartments with a majestic lake view and a sky-high spectacle of the city. But behind the glamorous image, beneath the expensive clothes and polished appearances, there is a different reality—a story of hardship, sacrifice, and tears that often goes untold.

In the midst of an important meeting, a tiny voice echoes within our ears. A voice that belongs to our precious child, pleading with urgency, "Mommy, I need to go potty." The pull of responsibility, tears our souls forcing us to choose between fulfilling our professional commitments and answering the call of our offspring.

We become concerned when our child coughs or requires our attention, but it becomes even more frightening when they encounter an emergency and require our support. Unfortunately, to add to the challenge, we receive a client call at that very moment. It's really difficult to manage both situations simultaneously

In moments of pain, when our meeting stretches longer, our little son yearns for our presence. He approaches us with an Innocent Charm and plead: 'Mommy, Can I Sit Silently on Your Lap, Please. I won't disturb you, Mom. I'll stay quiet.'

As our meeting drags on, we find ourselves multitasking, soothing our little one to sleep with one hand while working with the other. The guilt lingers as we struggle to switch off the glow of the laptop.

While tirelessly attending to our own tasks without rest, we manage to feed them, put them to sleep, and help them with their homework.

Yes, We have a cook to prepare our meals, offering some domestic support amidst the chaos of our lives. But sadly, the food arrives lukewarm, lacking the comforting warmth we crave. There is no time to appreciate the flavors or savor the delights of the cuisine. The empty chair at the dining table symbolizes our longing, a reminder of the countless moments we've sacrificed in pursuit of balance.

We have friends,—or at least we think we do.We have numerous connections within our social circles. But when we reach out, seeking solace, the response is an echo of disappointment. A default message that haunts our inbox: "Can't talk now, call you later." Their lives continue to unfold, while we are left to navigate our own responsibilities, seeking solace in the solitary corners of our weary hearts.

Unfortunately, our parents don't support us because they dislike the city lifestyle we lead. We have no one to turn to for gentle guidance or comforting presence when the weight of it all becomes too much. Instead, we navigate the world of power and boardrooms, torn between our professional lives and the innocent eyes of our little ones.

Amidst the tears and struggles of a working mom, there's an unbreakable spirit that prevails. With determination and love, she finds a way to balance it all, nurturing her child's happiness while pursuing her dreams. Her resilience shines, and her family thrives with joy.

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Why Turning 36 is Special & Crafting My 36-Bucket List Journey

Turning 36 marks a significant milestone in life—a moment where we find ourselves at the crossroads of reflection and anticipation. It's a time of introspection, a chance to look back at the journey that brought us here and the lessons we've learned along the way. At 36, we've a massive experiences that have shaped our character, relationships that have enriched our lives, and accomplishments that deserve celebration. It's a time to embrace the wisdom gained, cherish the present, and set intentions for the future. Join me on this remarkable journey as we delve into the reasons why turning 36 is truly special, a time for growth, gratitude, and embracing the magic of life.

 As I stand at the precipice of turning 36, I find myself reflecting on the incredible journey that has brought me here and the boundless possibilities that lie ahead. In celebration of this milestone, I have decided to embark on an exhilarating quest to create my very own bucket list—a collection of 36 awe-inspiring dreams and aspirations that will fuel my soul and push me to new heights.

1. Visit the Taj Mahal: Enhance travel experiences by visiting at least one world wonder.  Accomplished   Discovered the Taj Mahal's Awe-Inspiring Beauty on a North Indian Trip with Parents, Originally it was planned for a friendsWedding. 
2. Attend a literature festival: India has a thriving literary scene, with numerous literature festivals held throughout the country. Attend a festival to meet famous authors and participate in discussions about literature and culture. Accomplished on April 25th 2023
3. Attend the Holi Festival: As someone hailing from South India, I always harbored a deep desire to take part in the vibrant and colorful celebration of the Holi festival. Accomplished this year at my apartment
4. Explore the backwaters: Take a boat ride through the serene backwaters of Kerala, or any backwaters 
5. Share a mesmerizing dance with my husband : There's something undeniably enchanting about moving gracefully on the dance floor, embraced in the arms of the one we love —this is a dream I wanted cherish. Accomplished on May 27 2023, we experienced an enchanting dream, gracefully dancing on the beach, embraced by my love during a beach trek.
6. Roof-Top Adventures: Experience the exhilaration of travel by sitting on the roof of a bus or lorry, admiring the breathtaking views and feeling the wind rush through hair. Accomplished  Had a chance to travel on th roof of Bus with Breathtaking Views! Trekking Memories - So Much Fun!
7. Take a cooking class: Learn how to cook delicious Indian cuisine from a local chef.
8. Attend any movie premiere: I attended the Varisi movie premiere, and to my astonishment, the director recognized me, honoring and inviting me on stage, making me feel like a true part of the cinematic magic. Accomplished on Dec 16th 2021,
9. Ride a camel in the Thar Desert: Explore the sandy desert of Rajasthan on the back of a camel.
10. Go on a wildlife safari: Adventures in Natural Habitats: Explore India's Diverse Wildlife: Tigers, Elephants, Rhinos - Safari Accomplished  Had an exhilarating wildlife safari - close encounters with lions, tigers, bears, and snakes! Best experience ever!
11. Explore Private Waterfalls:  Accomplished  When we went to Coorg, we stayed at the end of the mountain and enjoyed a private waterfall, where only the three of us were present.
12.  Experience Ayurvedic treatments: Ayurveda is an ancient Indian system of medicine, and experiencing an Ayurvedic massage or treatment can be a relaxing and rejuvenating experience.
13. Visit the Golden Temple: Located in the city of Amritsar, the Golden Temple is a beautiful and spiritual place of worship for the Sikh community.Accomplished  
14. Attend a cricket match: Cricket is the most popular sport in India, and attending a match is a great way to experience the excitement and passion of the fans.
15. Unique Trekking Experince with Beach Trekking and Railway Trekking
16. Stay in Tree House 
17. Stay in Tent
18. Visit Caves: Explore Nature's Mysteries and Unearth Hidden Wonders Accomplished  Yana caves
19. Just A Road Trip:
20. Attend a traditional Indian wedding
21. Experience Dudhsagar to Goa train journey: India has an extensive railway network, and taking a train journey through the country can be a unique and memorable experience.
22. Attend a local festival: India has numerous festivals throughout the year, each with its own unique traditions and customs. Attend a local festival to experience the vibrant culture of India.  Accomplished Can Mariamman Festival Outshine Any Local Celebrations?
23. Explore forts and palaces of Rajasthan: The state of Rajasthan is known for its stunning forts and palaces, which provide a glimpse into the region's rich history and culture.
    
24. Attend a yoga retreat: India is the birthplace of yoga, and attending a yoga retreat can be a transformative experience for your mind, body, and spirit.
    
25. Hop on a street food tour: India is famous for its diverse and delicious street food. Take a food tour to sample some of the country's best culinary offerings.
    
26.  Visit the beaches of Goa: Accomplished Having been to Goa, I can attest to its allure with stunning beaches, lively nightlife and a few days relaxing on the sand and soaking up the sun.
27. Experience a homestay: Stay with a local family to experience the hospitality and warmth of Indian culture.
28. Attend a Kathakali performance: Kathakali is a traditional dance form from the southern state of Kerala, known for its colorful makeup and elaborate costumes.
29.  Experience the Longest Zipline Amidst Forest Wonder :
30. Take a hot air balloon ride: See India from above on a hot air balloon ride, and enjoy stunning views of the countryside.
31. Attend a music concert: Sufi music is a form of devotional music that originated in Muslim cultures. Attend a Sufi music concert to experience the spiritual and soulful music.
32. Visit a palace
33. Take a bicycle tour: Explore the streets of Indian cities and towns on a bicycle tour, and get a unique perspective on the local culture.
34. Volunteer at a social organization: India has many social organizations working to improve the lives of marginalized communities. Volunteer your time and skills to contribute to a cause you are passionate about.
35. Run a Marathon in Marriage Costumes: Participate in a marathon wearing matching marriage costumes with my husband, creating a memorable and unique experience together.
36. Witness the mesmerizing sunrise at any one of the beach and mountain

Whether you are 16 or 60, it's never too early or too late to dream big and create a personalized bucket list that resonates with your deepest desires. Together, we will defy the ordinary and discover the magic that lies within us, manifesting our dreams into reality. Let the adventure begin!

The Secrets of the Magic Stick

As parents, we strive to shield our children from the disappointments and hardships of life. In a world filled with instant gratification, it is crucial to guide our children in understanding the significance of disappointment. 

I recently had an eye-opening experience with my three-year-old son that taught me the importance of allowing our children to face disappointment and grow from it.

One evening, my son requested a visit to the play area. Armed with his cricket bat, he carried a stick from it and set off with excitement. Little did we know that this ordinary stick would lead us to a challenging situation.

As my son played in the sand, stick in hand, his eyes sparkled with delight. He would swing it through the air, pretending to be a mighty warrior. Each throw brought a burst of excitement as he watched the stick soar through the sky. 

As I watched him, I admired his innocence and enthusiasm. It reminded me that as parents, we often strive to provide our children with material possessions. However, it is often the simple things - a stick, a pile of sand, and a child's imagination can bring the greatest happiness.

The Anticipation of a Lost Stick:

In his innocent enthusiasm, my son accidentally threw the stick into a nearby bush, where a king cobra had been spotted just days ago. The fear of the danger that lurked in that bush made me hesitant to retrieve it.

A Cry for Help and a Fake Promise:

As any loving parent would, I tried to calm my disappointed son, assuring him that we would find a way to retrieve his cherished stick. He suggested asking someone for help, even shouting for assistance. However, I had to prioritize his safety and explain that calling security or strangers would not be a good option. To ease his heartache, I made a stupid promise that we would visit the shop today and get him a new stick. I unintentionally raised my son's expectations.

In retrospect, I realized that I should have placed more emphasis on his disappointment and taken the opportunity to explain that sometimes things cannot be replaced immediately and should have taught him the valuable lesson of coping with unexpected turns in life.

The Power of Disappointment:

As the evening wore on, Frustration and tears filled my son's eyes since I did not fulfill the promise, and he pleaded for immediate action. 

I held firm to my decision, explaining that life doesn't always grant us what we want and when we want. Overwhelmed with emotions, he cried himself to sleep.

A Parent's Reflection:

As I watched my son sleeping peacefully, a sense of pride mingled with a touch of regret. I had disappointed my son, but, I had taught him one of life's most valuable lessons. 

It is our responsibility to prepare our children for the realities of life, including disappointment. While it may be tempting to shield them from disappointment, we must resist the urge and instead teach them the lessons that come with it. By allowing our children to experience disappointment, we teach them the ability to adapt to challenging situations.

In the case of my son and his lost stick, I realized that my initial instinct to replace it immediately was not the best approach. By denying him instant gratification, I taught him that sometimes we have to wait for things we desire. I also taught him that life doesn't always go according to plan, and disappointment is a natural part of the journey.

Furthermore, Our children observe how we handle disappointment in our own lives. By demonstrating resilience and a positive attitude in the face of setbacks, we show them that disappointment is not the end, but an opportunity for growth.

So, to all parents out there, remember that disappointment can be a powerful teacher.  In the end, our role as parents is not just to shield our children from pain but to equip them with the power they need to navigate the ups and downs of life. And by teaching them how to handle disappointment, we empower them to become strong, compassionate individuals who can overcome obstacles and find joy and fulfillment, no matter what challenges they may face. 

Hello Baby - My Birth Story : Welcoming Our Beautiful Hero

Story about the birth of my son...

It's been a few days since our precious Kutty Thangam arrived, and I've been eagerly waiting to share my birth story on my blog.

So Here it goes.. 

That Butterfly Moment:🦋
On Jan 3rd 2019, I confirmed my pregnancy through HCG.

Happy Motherhood:😀🤰

During the middle of March, I was searching for a pregnancy class in Bangalore when I stumbled upon the Happy Motherhood website. Even though the classes were in Chennai, I registered my number and forgot about it.

Later on, I discovered Anandhi Mam's Sugamana Payanangal series, which was part of Putham Puthu Kaalai. Her positive and motivating talks made me an instant fan of hers. Little did I know that Anandhi Mam was also the founder of Happy Motherhood.

One day, I received a call from the HM admin who explained their Skype program to me. I was initially skeptical because I thought everything was covered in Sugamana Payanangal. However, the admin clarified how the classes were different, and I eventually enrolled for the Skype Elite session since it was more convenient for me.

🎉🎂 That Wow Moment:🎉🎂 
I had been eagerly anticipating my due date of September 9th, 2019, and felt mentally prepared to handle the pain of a normal delivery. I made sure to walk 15,000 steps and exercise every day, maintain adequate amniotic fluid levels, and had no complaints or gestational diabetes. When the baby's head was also fixed during my 37th week, I was hopeful for a smooth delivery.

10:30 AM:

On August 28th, during a routine checkup, the doctor gave me some unexpected news. Due to medical reasons, the doctor suggested a C-section would be the better option for me and the baby. I was taken aback and felt a wave of emotions rush over me - disappointment, fear, and uncertainty.

My husband, who had been by my side throughout the pregnancy, listened patiently to my venting and concerns. He knew that my safety and the baby's health came first, and he reminded me of that. With his unwavering support, I found the strength to accept the C-section and put my trust in the medical professionals. Although it wasn't what I had planned, I knew that the most important thing was to bring my little one into the world safely. And with my husband's love and support, I felt confident that everything would be okay.

As I was preparing myself mentally for a C-section, another shock came my way. The main reason I chose my hospital was because they allowed husbands to be present in the delivery room. However, the doctor informed me that they couldn't allow my husband inside the operation theater as people often panic and faint at the sight of the procedure. This meant that I had to go through the surgery all alone.

For my C-section, the procedure was scheduled for 7:45 PM and a hospital room was allocated to us. I called our parents to let them know, and they started making their way to the hospital. With some time to spare, I suggested to my husband that he should go get some lunch and come back later.

However, I didn't anticipate the pre-procedure preparations, and as soon as he left, the nurse started prepping me for the operation. I have a phobia of needles, and the thought of being alone without my husband made me feel incredibly weak. When the nurse inserted the needle into my vein for the first time, my hands swelled and blood flowed heavily. They had to insert the needle a second time. I felt so alone and helpless, and tears streamed down my face.

I didn't anticipate that this would be how my labor and delivery would go. It wasn't the ideal situation for me. However, I gathered my courage and made a conscious decision to stay positive, cheerful, and strong throughout the entire process.

7:00 PM:

As they wheeled in a wheelchair for me to be shifted to the operation theatre, I decided to walk instead, determined to show my strength. My parents arrived just then, and I greeted them with a cheerful smile and bid them goodbye.

The thought of the spinal injection was daunting and I was scared when I saw the anesthesiologist, but he was so friendly and reassuring. The first injection wasn't successful, but he patiently injected it a second time, and to my surprise, it didn't hurt at all. I felt numb from my tummy down to my feet, and as my eyes were blindfolded, everything felt like it was happening in a flash. 

During the surgery, the doctors kept me engaged with friendly conversation, and I felt comfortable talking to them. We discussed about Neeya Naana participation(a reality show), as well as other various topicsSuddenly, at 7.47 PM, I heard the most beautiful sound of a baby's chirp. My first reaction was, "WOW!" and the doctor exclaimed, "It's a B...O...Y... Boy!"

Visualization:👀

1. I had a strong vision that I would handle pregnancy gracefully and enjoy labor with a smile on my face. Despite some initial hiccups, I managed everything with grace.
2. My wish was for my baby to be healthy and always smiling, and that wish has come true.
3. Although I initially hoped for my baby to be born on my husband's birthday, which coincides with the due date, deep down, I visualized my baby being born on an extremely auspicious date and time. It was a wonderful surprise when he was born on a great date, which happened to be Shivaratri as well. 
4. One of my biggest wishes was for my husband to be with me during labor, and he had originally planned to leave Bangalore on Monday night. But miraculously, he extended his leave until Wednesday, and he even took me to the hospital himself, despite the initial plan for my parents to take me.

My Wonderful Experience with HM!🎁

During my pregnancy, I had a strong desire to maintain a positive and energetic outlook. However, there were days when I felt low and in need of a boost. This is where Ananthi mam's videos came to my rescue, always lifting my spirits and re-energizing me.

By improving my diet, ensuring proper sleep, and engaging in regular walking and exercise, I was able to maintain my energy levels throughout my pregnancy. In fact, I thoroughly enjoyed all the activities, particularly the July month activities, which included reading, walking, creative corner, and colorful plate challenges. Initially, I was concerned that taking on these activities in addition to the regular Elite challenges might be too much for me, but I decided to give it a try. To my surprise, I was able to successfully complete all of them for 30 days and even emerged as the winner.

Participating in the Elite daily challenges kept me motivated and engaged, and I can't express enough how much I enjoyed it. It gave me the opportunity to explore my hidden interests and talents. When people of all ages around me ask me if I feel tired, I am happy to say that I don't. I attribute this to following all four pillars of a healthy lifestyle.

My suggestions for Expecting Mothers:
❤ I highly recommend new expecting mothers to start the pregnency course as early as possible so that they can begin incorporating the activities into their routine. It took me two months to get on schedule and by the end of three months, I was able to effortlessly do all of the Elite activities.
❤Be Strong
The following day, I witnessed another delivery experience at the hospital where the mother was determined to have a normal delivery, but it became critical. This made me realize the importance of understanding the situation and severity, and trusting the doctors to make the right decision. It's important to be strong and accept the situation, knowing that everything happens for our good, and the most important thing is having a healthy baby. 👶

A Big Thank you
🙏Thank you is not enough. But a sincere gratitude to my hubby Karthik who was always there and took care like my mother and father. Without him, I might have not handled my pregnancy period so gracefully
🙏Thank you Anandhi mam and Anitha mam. Doing something that kept me busy always and doing what I love with the HM positive members surrounded is a memorable experience.
🙏My Special thanks to Anju, Annapurna, Anshita, Deepa, Deepthi, Jayamani, Jeevitha, Karthika, Lakshmi, Lilly, Nirmala, Poornima, Ramya, Saran, Thaya, Yogambal. You angel’s always appreciated other’s work and indeed it was a super boost.
🙏Special Thanks to all Elite members, you have constantly appreciated each other’s work.

Activities followed:
Proper diet and protein intake everyday- 3 to 5 different colors of food, eating more veggies and spinach, dry fruits, nuts and fruits consumption everyday, Mind games, Word games, Sudoku and Math puzzles, Left hand writing, Reading books - Spiritual and fictional, Listening to music - Chant music and favorites, Breathing exercises, Everyday visualization, baby journal and audio, frequent communication with babies, maintaining a happy and positive state of mind, being physically active - Walking, Kegels and exercises (Followed throughout except during 6th and 7th month wherein I was advised rest), Life with Nature - Walk in moonlight, Bird watching, Sunset watching, listening to bird sounds, Keen observation of surroundings, Creativity - Drawing, Black and White artefacts prepared and decorated in room