Friday, June 30, 2023

Work-Life Gone Wild

Life has a funny way of throwing unexpected challenges at us, especially when we think we have everything under control. Like a fearless circus performer effortlessly tossing balls through the air, I prided myself on the balancing art of juggling between personal life and professional life.

As fate would have it, the week that followed turned into an endless cycle of never-ending meetings. Since morning, I had been sitting in front of my laptop, experiencing back pain. As the night approached, the walls appeared to spin around me, engulfing me in a whirlpool of conversations, presentations, and deadlines.

Amidst the chaos of extended work hours, my laptop became the stage for a peculiar performance. Java coding, usually familiar and comprehensible, now danced before my eyes in a foreign language, leaving me bewildered. 

Just when I thought things couldn't get any more chaotic, my son's cries. In a mad rush, I hurried to his side, desperately trying to calm him down and soothe his distress. The exhaustion from work merged with the exhaustion of parenthood, creating a cocktail of fatigue that threatened to overwhelm me.

In the midst of this whirlwind, a message unexpectedly popped up on my screen. It promised a source of income, stating that by allowing a tower to be placed on my house, I could earn an impressive sum of money. In that moment, I couldn't help but laugh at the absurdity of it all. It felt as though the weight of the world was already on my shoulders, so why not add a tower on my head to complete.

As I pondered the madness that had become my daily routine, a thought crossed my mind. Why do we work ourselves to the bone, day and night, sacrificing our well-being for the illusion of success? 

While outsiders may perceive my work as glamorous, only us "ITians" truly understand the glamorous chaos that lies beneath the surface.

In the eerie depths of the night, as the clock shamelessly struck the hour of 1 am, I found myself standing on the balcony, observing the bustling city as it fell into a hushed stillness on Friday. Even the party hard people must have succumbed to a deep slumber. The highways continued to showcase a few buses and cars. 

Suddenly, the piercing wail of the ambulance siren reached my ears, slicing through the air. My mind warned me that if I continued on this path, I would likely meet my graveyard, succumbing to a heart attack at the ripe age of 36.

In the midst of my own self-reflection, I happened to observe a woman making her way to work. She was a house cleaning lady, starting her work at the crack of dawn, there were countless individuals like her, toiling away silently and tirelessly to support their families. It served as a humbling reminder that I was blessed with an extraordinary amount of privilege.

The sound of the team's meeting ringtone blared through my laptop speakers and I logged into yet another meeting. 

Yes, Life has its way of shaking us out of our comfort zones and balancing work and personal life is a constant struggle, but amidst the pain and laughter, we discover our own strength and resilience. 

Monday, June 26, 2023

Stuck on the Loading Screen-Overcoming Depression

My Mood has a skip Intro button, but I am struck on the loading screen.

One of the challenges of dealing with depression is that it is not always visible to others, making it difficult for them to recognize and understand what you are going through. In this article, we will shed light on depression and provide some practical steps to help you overcome it.

Depression can be a lonely battle. Sometimes, those around you may fail to recognize the signs of your suffering because Depression symptoms doesn't leave visible scars. It is crucial to remember that their lack of understanding does not invalidate your struggle. Some people may even dismiss depression as a mere fancy term or a way to escape from responsibilities. However, it is essential to recognize that depression is a genuine mental health condition that requires support and understanding.

Depression treatment options:
While friends and acquaintances may be occupied with their own lives, it is essential to seek support from your loved ones. Although they may not fully comprehend what you are experiencing, their presence and willingness to listen can offer solace during difficult times. However, relying solely on family and friends may not be sufficient to overcome depression entirely. It is crucial to explore additional avenues for support.

Depression causes:
To effectively deal with depression, it is important to identify the underlying causes. Depression can occur even in individuals who seemingly have a luxurious life or when everything seems to be going well. 

Often, depression stems from a deep-seated dissatisfaction or unfulfilled goals. If you find yourself overly fixated on a particular goal that remains unattainable, it can lead to feelings of despair and hopelessness. Identifying these triggers is a crucial step towards finding a way out of depression.

Seeking Professional Help:
While there are numerous resources available, such as counseling centers and helplines, it is crucial to remember that no single solution works for everyone. A qualified therapist or counselor can help you explore the root causes of your depression and develop coping strategies tailored to your specific needs. They can provide a safe space for you to express your emotions and guide you towards a path of healing.

Self-Care and Healthy Habits:
In addition to seeking professional help, practicing self-care and adopting healthy habits can significantly contribute to overcoming depression. Engaging in activities you enjoy, practicing mindfulness or meditation, maintaining a balanced diet, and getting regular exercise can all have a positive impact on your mental well-being. Building a support network of like-minded individuals who understand your struggles can also be beneficial.

Depression is a challenging condition that requires understanding and support. Remember, it is not a sign of weakness or something to be ashamed of. By seeking support from loved ones, understanding the root causes, and seeking professional help, you can embark on a journey of healing and recovery. Remember that you are not alone in this battle, and there is light at the end of the tunnel. With perseverance and the right resources, you can overcome depression and regain control of your life.

Friday, June 16, 2023

Title: "The Balancing Act: Navigating Work and Parenthood Amidst Chaos"

Parenting vs. Professional Life: The Art of Multitasking and Managing Energetic Kids

Life is an intricate dance between responsibilities, and for those of us juggling a demanding career and a rambunctious child, the struggle can feel overwhelming. As a frazzled parent caught in the whirlwind of multitasking, I know firsthand the challenges that come with trying to maintain order in the midst of chaos. In this heartfelt article, I invite you to step into my shoes and experience the trials and triumphs of attempting to strike a delicate balance between work and the ever-so-energetic presence of my beloved son.

The Notebook Nightmare:
As the sun rises and the world awakens, I embark on my professional journey with zeal and determination. But alas, fate has a peculiar way of throwing curveballs our way. Imagine my dismay when I discovered that my meticulously crafted notebook, a repository of a year's worth of hard-earned knowledge, had fallen victim to my son's artistic endeavors. His tiny hands had transformed my carefully penned notes into an abstract masterpiece, leaving me speechless and my dreams of organized brilliance shattered.

Walls of Whimsy:
In the world of parenthood, no surface is safe from the boundless creativity of our offspring. It seems that my son, with a paintbrush in hand and a devilish gleam in his eye, found solace in adorning the walls of our home with his vibrant artwork. Each stroke of his crayon unleashed a riot of colors that now graced every corner of our living space. The once pristine walls became an expression of his uninhibited imagination, turning our home into an impromptu art gallery.

Toy Tornado:
Toys, oh, the toys! They multiply like rabbits, spreading across the room like a tidal wave of plastic and imagination. With every play session, my son's enthusiasm knows no bounds. He delights in the chaos he creates, scattering toys haphazardly, leaving a trail of miniature vehicles and action figures in his wake. As a parent, my role transforms into a master of organization, diligently tidying up the toy tornado each day, only to witness its rapid return before I can even catch my breath.

The Great Laundry Caper:
Folding clothes—a simple task, one might think. But in the presence of a curious and vivacious child, even the most mundane activities can turn into an epic adventure. As I diligently fold each garment, my son's eyes light up with mischief. In a blink of an eye, the neatly arranged piles become a battleground for his untamed energy. Shirts fly through the air like kites, socks become secret weapons, and the once peaceful laundry room becomes a chaotic battlefield. I sigh and embrace the challenge, knowing that the chaos is a small price to pay for the joy he brings to my life.

Waterworks Extravaganza:
Water, a source of life and refreshment, holds a particular fascination for my son. Whether it's a cup of juice or a freshly drawn bath, he possesses an innate ability to transform the simplest liquid into a watery wonderland. In his world, every drop is an opportunity for exploration and experimentation. Spills, splashes, and soaked surfaces become a testament to his insatiable curiosity. Armed with towels and mops, I navigate the watery aftermath, all the while cherishing the laughter that echoes through our home.

While the struggle to balance work and parenthood may seem insurmountable at times, it's important to remember that these challenges are part of a larger tapestry of love and growth. In the midst of scribbled notebooks, decorated walls, scattered toys, and water-soaked adventures, lies the beauty of raising a child—a journey that requires flexibility, resilience,

Tuesday, June 6, 2023

From Baby Bump to Bonus Belly

Throughout my pregnancy, I joyfully embraced the extra weight, knowing it was necessary to nourish my growing baby. After my little one arrived, I continued to prioritize breastfeeding, not paying much attention to my own weight gain. However, as my child approached 2.6 years old and weaning stopped, I realized it was time to focus on my own well-being. On Jan 2022, I was 68.8 Kgs and I determined to shed the extra pounds. 

High on Success: With sheer determination, I dedicated three months to transforming my body. Embracing a healthy lifestyle, I incorporated regular exercise and made mindful choices about my diet. 

The results were remarkable as the numbers on the scale steadily decreased.
All those months chasing after gym and healthy food have paid off. Even the models are jealous of my sleek figure now! 

I felt confident, my energy levels soared, and I even noticed a radiant glow on my skin. It seemed like I got an unstoppable force and can never regain those extra pounds. However, life had a different plan in store for me.

The Unexpected Setback:
Life became more hectic, I found myself caught in a whirlwind of stress, and emotional upheaval. Unknowingly, I slipped into a state of depression and turned to food for comfort. The healthy habits I had cultivated were slowly replaced by mindless eating and neglecting exercise. 

In an attempt to distract my mind, I  resumed my travels, only to find myself falling into the tempting of unhealthy food once more. 

Just like my boyfriend who couldn't resist my irresistible charm and came crawling back after a few months my weight has boomeranged right back to 68, and those sneaky scale numbers can't resist increasing 0.10 grams every single day. It's as if my weight missed me so much, now it's determined to make up for lost time!

The Agonizing Heel Pain:
To make matters worse, my body began to rebel against the weight gain and unhealthy lifestyle choices. I started experiencing excruciating pain in my heels, especially in the mornings when I first stepped out of bed. It felt like sharp, stabbing sensations that made each step a torment. It didn't take long to discover that I was suffering from plantar fasciitis, a condition I had never encountered before.

My dress has joined the "tight and uncomfortable" fashion trend once again. And let's not forget the unexpected arrival of back pain. With this extra weight around my stomach, it feels like I've become a human mountain range! Forget about hiking trips—I've got my own built-in landscape right here.

Through this painful experience, I have come to realize the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle beyond just reaching a specific weight goal. 

No matter how hard I try to shed those extra pounds, it feels like my emotional eating game is on a winning streak. And just when I think I've conquered the cravings, my relatives swoop in with an array of sweets and snacks. With each passing day, my stomach grows stronger, as if it's engaged in a battle between me and the mountain. My belly is now ready to take on the title of the world's most highest peak!

Despite the ongoing struggles and constant battles in my mind, I hold onto the hope that one day I will rise victorious . reclaim my ideal weight. 

Sunday, June 4, 2023

From Cuddles to Crayons

My dear Son,
As you set foot into school on your first day, a whirlwind of emotions floods my heart. Considering NEP's mandatory requirement for children to be at least four years old, your dad and I have engaged in numerous discussions and decided to enroll you in Nursery instead of LKG. We believe that this choice will provide you with a strong foundation and it holds good for your long-term growth. 

Growing up Fast

We selected a preschool intentionally veering away from mainstream options. The driving force behind this decision was to create an environment where you wouldn't have to wake up at 7 am, endure a one-hour commute through the traffic of Bangalore, and return home feeling exhausted. This phase of your life is meant to be cherished and my dear son, we aim to preserve your childhood innocence while embracing the promising opportunities that await you.

Balancing Friendship, Academics, and the Pursuit of Happiness

As you step into the world of Nursery, as a parent, I choose not to burden you with expectations and want to break the mold and be unique in my approach. However, I couldn't resist the temptation to give you a friendly suggestion.
M lil one at School

While I want you to enjoy your time with friends, excel in academics, and participate in extra-curricular activities, there is one important lesson I want you to remember: Never get carried away with the rat race of life.

Surround yourself with kind, supportive, and genuine friends who bring out the best in you. Cherish these friendships and make an effort to be a good friend in return. 

Education is important, and I want you to embrace the opportunities that come with it. Study diligently, engage with your teachers, and explore subjects or activities that ignite your curiosity. Do not study solely for the sake of marks or competition, but do it to expand your knowledge. Education is a lifelong journey, so foster a love for learning that extends beyond the classroom.

Participating in sports and extracurricular activities is an integral part of your school experience and just like mom, you should participate in them. Engage in activities that interest you and bring you joy. Whether it's sports, music, art, or any other pursuit, give it all. Participating in these activities will not only help you develop skills but also teach you important values such as teamwork, discipline, and perseverance.

Remember the Bigger Picture:
While it's important to strive for success, remember that life is not a never-ending race. Do not measure your worth solely by grades, trophies, or external achievements. Take time to pause, reflect, and enjoy the journey. Find balance in your life, make time for hobbies, and cultivate meaningful relationships. Focus on personal growth, emotional well-being, and the pursuit of happiness.

Today marks the beginning of a beautiful journey and as your parent, we will be there to support you, guide you, and celebrate every step of your unique journey. 

Love you My Son. 

Saturday, June 3, 2023

The Dilemma of Metro Culture

In today's hyper-caffeinated world, trends change in the blink of an eye and it's not surprising to find ourselves caught up in those culture. One such trend- where parents book a party hall adorned with a specific theme decoration, colorful balloons, wear party hats, exchange return gifts, and indulge in a feast fit for a king. Yes, I am going to pen about the birthday party celebrations that we arrange for our children, primarily in metro cities.

This week, I find myself attending third consecutive birthday party, pondering the implications of this growing trend. One was organized by a close relative, another by our neighbors next door, and the third by my dear friend. Hence, I could decline any of these invitations. After all, avoiding such gatherings goes against the so called rule of social etiquette and risks of isolating ourselves from community. Yet, I question whether this metro culture is truly beneficial for my child and my family values.

As a parent, I've always had a different vision for my child's birthday celebrations – simplicity, quality time with family and a understanding to the deeper meaning of the life. I envisioned taking him to the temple, attending school if it fell on that day, and visiting an orphanage or a senior citizen home to have a sense of empathy and gratitude. However, as the pressure to conform societal expectations mounts, it feels like the essence of these ideas is slipping away.

Now, I find myself at a crossroads. I can no longer avoid hosting extravagant birthday parties for my son. A close friend of mine said that it has become a mandatory ritual, every month, that she is expected to set aside a portion of her income, specifically for these lavish celebrations, all for the sake of a few hours of joy and merriment. It's ironic to think that we used to criticize our parents for extravagant weddings, and now, unintentionally, we find ourselves doing the same.

Where does this cycle end? How can I strike a balance between adhering to societal expectations and staying true to my own values as a parent? These questions weigh heavily on my mind.

Perhaps, it's time for a paradigm shift. Instead of succumbing to the pressure of lavish parties, we can focus on creating meaningful experiences. We can teach our children about the value of money, the importance of giving back to society, and the joy of simple pleasures. By prioritizing these aspects, we can demonstrate that birthdays are not solely about extravagant celebrations, but rather about love, growth, and shared experiences.

Will I be successful in imparting these values that truly matter to my son? Can I convince him that a party is not about receiving gifts, but about planting a tree on his birthday, buying a book to expand his knowledge, or donating his clothes to those in need? Will he come to understand the joy and fulfillment that comes from giving and making a difference in someone else's life?Will my son grow up to value the lessons I strive to teach him, and will he appreciate the choices I make as a parent?

But yeah, It won't be an easy path, but as parent, it is my responsibility to guide my child towards a balanced understanding of life. By striking a balance between the modern metro culture and our own values, we can provide our children with a solid foundation that will empower them to make conscious decisions in the future.

My dear parents, let's embark in redefining the meaning of birthdays, and fostering an environment where simplicity, love, and personal growth take center stage once again.