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Sunday, May 17, 2015

Ever Time Rememberence

Pages from my #MemoriesOfMotherhood


30-August-2007:
4:00 A.M 

“I should have opted for surgery for my daughter. I could not see my daughter suffering” I could hear my mom's talk even though I was screeching in pain. I could feel a sense of respect in my husband's eyes that was getting increased. My sister was in temple from the time I got the labor pain. My dad to overcome his tension, he was reading newspaper. But only god knows whether the news are getting into his mind or getting slipped off from his mind.

“Come on Push further,” the doctor replied.
“No, I am not able to take it up anymore. I want to give up. I am tired of struggling and baring the pain” I could not even reply. I slowly stopped responding to the doctors and become unconscious.

08.00 A.M

My brain could sense some sensational fondle. With all my left over energy, I struggle to open my eyes and what I saw gave me the energy and hope to the rest of my life. The baby’s skin was as soft as the petals of the Lotus flower.
My , My, _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ arrived. I was searching for a word to fill that blank. My angel, my world, my confidence, my life, all those words seems to have no value to express about my baby's arrival.
"It’s has the look of the mother. See the sharp eyes and nose. Its cute" Someone was deliberating. Tears welled up my eyes but it was fixed with an emotion of gratification. A smile lit up my face before the tears could reach my ears.
"My baby ..my my.. BABY arrived" I whispered and realized that’s the best word to fill that blank. When I said that, I felt goose bumps puffing up across my body.

The baby was wrapped in towel and with the help of nurse, I feed my baby. Only women will know and realize how lucky to get that wonderful feeling of feeding their baby. The baby then went back to sleep, wiping all my labor pain by his (her!?) innocent face.

After a while, something struck my mind and I asked my mother, "Was it a baby boy or girl"
Every one broke into a big laughter and shot the question back to me, “Well, what you want?”
I blushed and replied, "Boy or Girl doesn't matter. But After 9 months of wait, I am now curious to know. Please tell me" I almost begged and my hands reached the baby's towel to let slip the secret.
My sister caught my hand and warned, "You need to guess the sex of the baby and if your guess goes wrong, we will take the baby with us."

I looked at my husband for any clue but as usual he put me on spot and gave a smile. I recollected the interaction that I had with my baby for these nine months and the response of my baby when I touch the womb. I looked at the baby. The rose cheeky baby was in deep sleep. Some inner voice gave the answer.  I felt my baby was helping its mother or it could be my intuition too. I said, “It’s a baby boy”

And

And

And

“Yes, I was right” :)

Thank you my sister, for sharing your wonderful #MemoriesOfMotherhood. I hope this post will reminisce you to the journey of mother hood.

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Friday, May 15, 2015

Tips to De-Stress Super Moms

This post has won the Parachute #StressFreeMom Contest


Tips to De-stress your Mom.

Outside the Home:
"Your daughter is still not married. She is already 24"   ~ Ms.Assassination.
"Is your son still jobless"   ~ Ms.Bossy
"You don't own a house yet” ~Ms.Cunning.
"This saree color does not suit you" ~ Ms. Jealous

Inside the Home:
"Mom, Understand. I did not like that groom. I can't get married for the sake of your relatives. And please don’t bring this topic again and NOW' please leave me alone"
~ Daughter
"Ma, Need 1000 rupees and I told you to iron my shirt. You didn't" ~ Son
"You forgot to pay current bill. You do that every time. How many things I can take care of?" ~ Husband
"Sorry ma, my daughter not feeling well. Need another day leave" - Maid
"Your performance is not up to the mark" - Manager @ work.
"Did you get those medicines?" - Father in law
"Your never keep the house clean." - Daughter in law.

Mom is the person where all the family members vent out all the pressure. Isn't?

"Mom are you not fed-up on tolerating our frustrations? Are you not stressed out by cooking and working for us?" I asked my mom once.

Her answer was, "Everything gets wiped out, when I see my children and family happy. I get stressed out only when you guys are not happy."

Mom, she lives only for her family. In her life span, she never gets time to take care of her. She never even shows her pain or illness outside.

A Mother's Life cycle:

In the above life cycle’ a mom does not have time to take care of herself. So, it’s our responsibility to give her that time and distress her.
               
Below are the five tips to make your mom#StressFreeMom this week:

  1. Give her a break. - Clean your home. Cook and surprise your mom. (Side Effects - Mom will get sick or food poison by eating the food you prepared)
  2. Take her a vacation (Side Effects - all her thoughts would be around her home and house hold duties. She will not enjoy the vacation)
  3. Offer her soothing music (Side Effects - lol, she will never ever open the CD cover. She would feel much happier when you offer the remote during her favorite serial, but again serial would put her in pressure again.) 
  4. Say, "I love you mom" and offer a kiss. (Side Effects -She will get doubt that you did something wrong. Her reply on hearing I love you would be, "What mistake you did now?" "Are you in love with someone" "No, I can’t approve for outing with your friends")
  5. Take her for a walk. (Side Effects - At night - She might need bed rest or her leg must have clotted after walking for so long")
So at the end MISSION FAILED!!!

What is the only feasible, easy, convenient one to #StressFreeMom.?

When she is done with all the cooking and while taking rest follow the below steps.

Request your mom to close the eyes and massage her scalp in deep circular movements and offer her a wonderful rejuvenating oil massage with Parachute Advansed Aromatherapy Oil. This oil contains herbs like Lavender, Rosemary & Bergamot. Lavender is known for Antidepressant properties and it treats insomnia and anxiety. The aromatic rosemary is widely used for healing and purification. It stimulates the brain and improves the memory. The Bergamot oil reduces the body temperature and acts as a good relaxant. A peaceful Massage with these herbs is a proven method to reduce the stress and it will improve the overall mental and physical performance.

Getting a massage from daughter/son would give a double benefit than getting at a luxury spas, since this massage is mixed with love and comfort.
Have you not felt mother’s food taster than restaurant foods?

What are you waiting for? Offer her a long relaxing massage today and observe how deep and relaxed she sleeps today. 

Warning:
If you want to offer a massage for neck pain or back pain, its better to consult a trained Massage therapy expert.            

 “I’m blogging about why my mother needs to de-stress with a Parachute Advansed Aromatherapy Oil massage for the #StressFreeMom activity at BlogAdda.