The Impact of Inappropriate Scenes: Reflections on 'Thirunaal' and the Influence on Children

"The Impact of Inappropriate Scenes: Reflections on 'Thirunaal' and the Influence on Children"

Yesterday, I had the opportunity to watch the movie "Thirunaal," and I found myself unsettled by a few scenes depicted in the film. One particular scene involves Nayan, who plays the role of a kindergarten teacher. In an attempt to portray herself as a sweet and caring teacher, she offers chocolates to the children as a reward for entering the classroom. To further emphasize her affectionate character, she requests kisses on the cheek from the kids. However, one child ends up kissing Nayan on the lips. This scene left me questioning its implications. Does the child's innocent action suggest attraction towards Nayan at such a young age? Or is it simply viewed as cute when a child goes beyond normal boundaries? Is this a reflection of modernity, or is it purely intended for entertainment purposes?

Personally, I found it difficult to accept a scene that seemingly promotes children engaging in inappropriate dialogue or actions for the sake of comedy or innocence. In an interview, the director defended the scene, stating that it was meant to depict the innocence of children and provide humor. However, if such scenes are intended to be innocent, I am concerned that we may be compromising the true essence of childhood innocence. It is crucial to teach children, both boys and girls, about the concepts of good and bad touch. Unfortunately, the director's portrayal of childhood in this manner is disconcerting.

Consider the potential consequences of such scenes. If a child were to witness this and then be asked to kiss someone, they might imitate the act, assuming it is cute or the way things should be. Children are highly impressionable and often learn from what they see in movies, considering it as inspiration. Regrettably, movies have a negative influence on children in certain instances. I hope that Tamil cinema will eventually stop showcasing children in exaggerated scenes, heroines as Loosu-ponnu, and heroes engaging in smoking and drinking, all while portraying it as admirable or cool.(Idhu la cool background music vera)

If a scene is intended to convey modernization or Western culture, it is important to understand that modernization does not equate to allowing children to spend hours playing video games or enrolling them in numerous extracurricular activities at a very young age.

Additionally, there is another scene in "Thirunaal" where the hero commits an immoral act during his time as a rowdy. Surprisingly, he shows no remorse for his actions in subsequent scenes. A real man would not engage in such behavior, yet it is no surprise that Nayan falls in love with him.

Movies are undoubtedly a form of entertainment, and it is ultimately up to individuals to discern between good and bad influences within a film. One could argue that it is possible to learn positive lessons from movies while disregarding the negative aspects. However, my concern lies with children, as they are not yet mature enough to distinguish between right and wrong. They learn from movies, whether it is about societal values or negative behaviors.

There are numerous commendable films, such as "Appa," which deliver important messages about effective parenting. Unfortunately, there are also movies like "Thirunaal" that fail to uphold these standards.

Elderly parents? Read on

A Letter to all my friends and Readers

What is the major change in life? Job change? Getting married? or Financial windfall? 

Above all, there is one major change in life, in which we have no experience or never realize. But that's the most important change which needs to be dealt with cautious care. Because it’s highly sensitive. 

Can you guess what’s that?

All of your life there were two persons who was always there to support you financially as well as emotionally. All of a sudden one day you realize that the world has turned upside down. Your elderly parent starts depending on you. Below are few things to remember, when that major change happens

Apologize when you are rude with them:
That, that repetition, senseless questions, ability to hear, their innocent activities drive us crazy one or the other time.  We never tend to hurt them intentionally, but sometimes (or most of the times?) we get annoyed and outburst our frustration with them.

Few years before, I offered a glass with tea to my grandma. She raised her hands toward me to accept the tea glass. With trembling hands, she picked it up but dropped the tea glass immediately. The hot droplets of tea splashed onto my eyes and I howled out in pain. My dad rushed to the spot and looked at his mother (my grandma) as well his daughter (me). He went near my grandma and comforted her saying, "Mom, Just a tea right. Leave it. We can easily clean and can make another cup of tea. Leave it". 

Its then I released how my grandma was feeling helpless, guilty and extremely bad for dropping the glass and tea on to my eyes. This incident disturbed my mind a lot. Are we (this young generation) so calm enough like our parents? I know, her act was not intentional. But incident like this tend to raise our anger and we just show it to elderly people. 

My grandma hands were thin and she could not tolerate the heat. It’s my mistake for not taking extra care while offering the tea. Incidents like this often happen with our elderly parents and we tend to lose our patients. 

Friends my sincere request, don’t ever show your rudeness or emotional outburst with them. If you do so, they will feel insecure and guilt. 

I agree, they repeat the same things again and we get frustrated. 

They embarrass us in front of others and it tests our patients.  

But please don’t lose your temper with them. By any chance if you could not control your anger and shouted at them, apologize. 

Say positive words. Tell them, “I am sorry. I was in bad mood and will never repeat"

When you keep apologizing for your activity, you tend to be little more cautious from next time

Spend some quality time with them:

I am not asking you to take them for movies or some international trips or fulfil your parents long temples wish-list. Just leave your mobile phones at your home and take them for a walk. Listen to them that's more than enough. Read more at Little things to do to our parents.

Let them enjoy their Independence:

While crossing the road, in order to protect my dad, I hold his hands. He instantly push my hands and say not to hold. 

Yes, our parent doesn’t like to be treated as someone who needs help. They wanted their independence first. Learn to help or protect them without letting them know. 

In my previous case I say, dad I need protection and act as if I need help while crossing the road and protect him. In this way, they feel proud that still they are able to support their child too.  

One last thing, I came across this touching message today

An old man took his phone to a repair shop, He was told nothing was wrong with his phone, He asked then why don't my kids ever call me. 

Never make parents long for their own children love. If they do so, that's the biggest failure in our life.