Pre-Marital Sex - Yes or No

Premarital Sex - Yes or No 

In my grandparent’s generation, a girl talking to a boy was considered immoral. Whereas in my parent’s generation, a guy talking to a girl was acceptable, but love marriages were treated to be sin. Whereas in my generation i.e, at present, love marriages are welcomed by our parents. But the term “living together”, “Dating” and “Premarital Sex” are considered as taboo. The below three pictures would describe the cultural growth of three generations. 

My Grandparents Generation

My Parents Generation.. 

The Next Generation... 

I was shuddering, when I spoke to my little sister today who is just 19 years old. I also understood that generation gap was not between me and my parents, but it was between me and my sister. I am 26 years old and my sister Ishani is 19 years old and she just entered college.
This was the question I asked her after a long hesitant, "What you think about premarital Sex? Are you for it or against it?” I thought she would be embarrassed at such question. But, in-turn, she comforted me and wiped my shyness to hear her answers.
With confident she replied, “I don’t think it’s bad as long as they get married. I would not be comfortable about it when it’s with a guy whom I know for a small time. But, if it is someone whom I have known for a long time, then there comes the matter of trust. If I can trust him, maybe I would not mind having it with him”
I appreciated her for being candid and I am a person who doesn’t cling to the old beliefs. I don’t have any wrong opinion on people who go for dating, live together and have sex before marriage. Because it’s their freedom and as long as they don’t hurt anyone’s feelings, “who are we to judge them or pass some critics?” But on the other hand, according to me my answer is a Big “NO” to pre-marital sex. Because, there are chances of promises about marriage, getting broken up after sex. So in those cases, the girl gets treaded upon by her own feelings. Then there comes the look of society upon her as a “bitch”. Also, I studied in a Christian school, which preached premarital sex is a sin and the environment I brought up was with full of morals and values. They taught me sex is meant only after marriage and their teachings were nailed up in each and every cell of mine.
A woman should be matured enough to judge or select her partner. Even if a woman is mature enough to select the Mr. Right, Circumstance can turn 180 degrees and the partner may leave you for any personal, health or financial problem. Ask yourself this question 100 times, what if he finds a better person than you, or maybe he was with you just for sex? Or things were not working out and announce a call off? In the case of a break-up, it's only women go into a deep depression.
Sex is a beautiful gift from nature that takes the love life of a partner to the next level by developing a deep companionship. But when it is done before marriage, it may bounce back the other way. It may develop a hatred feeling towards partner in case of any minute break-up. Love is to enjoy the emotional bonding between the couple whereas, marriage is to enjoy the physical bonding between the couple.
As per me, the right age to talk about Sex has to be over 24. Premarital sex comes with a package of fear of pregnancy, fear of break-up. When you love someone truly and unconditionally, you wait for them. Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. It may be difficult to stop yourself from getting intimate with the partner whom you love the most. But when you wait till the marriage, it really takes you to the next level. And as a woman, the best gift you a woman can gift for a life partner would be the "virginity" and as a man, the best gift you can give to your lover would be stopping herself from facing unwanted pregnancy and guilt.

This post was written as a part of YES or NO to Pre-Marital Sex contest organized by indiblogger.

5 interesting places I would like to visit

5 interesting places I would like to visit 

I am a person who loves to travel a lot and explore new places. It helps to connect me with nature and rejuvenate myself. New Year is round the corner and its time to make the Wish list (Travel list) for 2015.
In 2015, I would like to Visit 5 interesting places that I always dreamed about.

Chadar Trek (Zanskar Trek) - Frozen River/Zanskar River
Chadar Trek would be the defaulter in the bucket list of every aspiring trekker. I am really sort of words to describe about the beauty and charm of this river during January. I have had explored Beach trekking, trekking in deep rain forest, Night trekking, full moon day beach trekking, But a Trek on Frozen river?

Source- travel.paintedstork.com

From the moment I heard "trekking on a Frozen River", my soul fell in love with it without my knowledge. Its repeated discussion with my co-trekkers made me to long for this. This trekking is best only during the month of January, since only during that time, the Zanskar River freezes down to ice. It’s the most challenging trek and adventurous trek with duration of 8 Nights/9 Days covering a total distance of 105 km. The temperature would be around 15 to 20 degrees (during the day) and -25 to -35 degrees (during the night). My friends told me that, the tea gets frozen off as soon as they take if off from the fire make it hard to difficult to drink. Sounds so thrilling right? And yes, I had already booked my flights tickets and have planned for it during 16 Jan 2015 to 24 Jan 2015
Wondering why the name Chadar? It means thick blanket of the snow. Counting my days to trek on the snow blanket!!!

Boston, United States:

Source - http://www.runnersworld.com/

If Chadar trek is a dream destination for all passionate trekkers, participating at-least once in Boston Marathon would be life-time achievement for all athletes. The Boston Marathon is one of the oldest and prominent race in united states and in order to qualify to run in Boston Marathon, a person should meet their previous record of 3hrs 35min 00sec in their gender and age category. For my gender and age category it is record of 3hrs 35min 00sec, which is equal to a pace of 8:50 per mile. Registration has been already opened for the year 2015 and it’s scheduled on the Massachusetts Patriots’ Day i.e. April 20, 2015.
I would be so pleased if I get a chance to participate in Boston Marathon once in my life time, if not at-least once I should visit Boston to see and encourage those veterans running.

Mount Kilimanjaro 

still from the movie Robot 

It’s in my bucket list to visit at least ONE of the Seven Wonders of the World before I die. Among the Seven Wonders of the World (new list), my first preference would be Mount Kilimanjaro which is otherwise called as Machu Picchu, Peru. Why not Taj Mahal or Great Wall of China? Why am I specific about this world wonder? It’s because of the 2 reasons; first it’s the highest mountain in Africa. Second, I loved it from the time, Rajinikanth and Aishwarya Rai danced for the song Kilimanjaro in the movie Robo(Enthiran). The complete “Kilimanjaro” was shot in Mount Kilimanjaro and the picturesque mountain attracted me. This is also called as Mountain of Light

Melbourne:
I am yet to find the reason for falling in love with Melbourne. My favorite pet is Penguin. I love its goofiest look and it’s so cute. I love watching them swimming and its jump into the air are just amazing. I know in Melbourne there is a dedicated place for penguin named "Penguin Parade". Then I wanted to visit “Healesvile Sanctuary” and explore the animals that I had seen only in Animal Planet and Discovery channel. Last but not least, I wish to visit Eureka Sky deck 88 and wanted to view the inspiring Melbourne in all 380 degree angles.

Leshan Giant Buddha, China

Source - Wikipedia

I am a big fan of Buddha and follow his quotes. From my childhood, I have a huge collection of Buddha Statue and madly wanted to visit all Buddhist temples.If Kashi and Rameswaram are the holy and dream place for Hindus as a Buddha Follower I want to visit Leshan Gaint Buddha. This place has a 71-metre giant stone statue of Buddha with a bright smile on Buddha. So, I want to see Buddha with a height of 71-Metre.

There is one more in my wish list in other words I would say my die-hard desire, which is incredible and that cannot be clubbed with the above wishlist. That' Hiroshima and Nagasaki city in Japan.

Hiroshima and Nagasaki city in Japan:
When I was in school, History was always a boring subject and one can always see me sleeping in the class. But for one of the History lecture, I was completely awake and after reaching home I goggled to learn a lot about it. That's the bombing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki. The explosion has washed out 2 cities, killing many people. I just closed my eyes and prayed god when I read another dreadful statement. “Still people have an effect due to the radiation exposure.”
I followed regularly about Hiroshima and Nagasaki from that day and now I am so proud to see their growth. One best example would be the large automobile industry Mitsubishi is in Nagasaki. I want to explore both the city Hiroshima and Nagasaki, meet the Japanese people, understand their culture, their positive attitude in coming up after such a tragedy incident.